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Lesbian Looking for advice on co-parenting with ex
To sum this up. I am still in love with my ex. We are not together and now she is dating someone I do not agree with. This woman has a criminal background and does not seem like the best person. My ex and I agreed that I can be involved in her childrens lives but they live in ny and I live in nj. It hurts me to not have say so in their lives or who they are around, my ex even tells me not to question her decisions as a mother. Should I just walk away from the situation or just stick around to give the kids a positive role model. I am very much attached to them. This situation just stresses me out everyday.
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When it comes to gay and lesbian relationships, marriages and parents, the laws are only just beginning to be recognized in some states with allowing marriage. I am all for there being equal rights and believe many same sex couples can make great parents but it all depends on what the current laws are as to whether you have any say. If i understand correctly, the two of you only have a verbal agreement. I don't think that means you have much say into the childrens lives legally by law. There is very little law as is right now for the rights of same sex partners, let alone for same sex ex's. If she is willing to let you see the kids, then sure, take them for visits and give them a positive role model.
Keep watch over them.
As to your concerns about the new ex criminal person, Unless you witness bad treatment of the kids, you can't do anything like calling CPS anonymously. The most you can do is Closely observe how they are fairing when you see them, any changes for the worse in their behavior or attitudes, ask how things are going at home and if its okay, make drop by visits occasionaly for yourself to their home to see how things seem to be going so you can have peace of mind on this.
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