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I don't love him back
Hi, I'm 18/f..... This guy, my neighbor, loves me but I don't love him back. I've told him before that I'm not interested in him and there's no hope for us. He's always texting me and asking to come visit me. Sometimes I say yes. He is trying so hard for me to love him back but it's never gonna happen. How do I tell him that he can stop trying so hard because he is wasting his time?? I hate to see him try when he knows I will never love him. Please help.
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Hey!
I had this exact problem except that my best friend fell in love with me and it was not good!
I know that you feel bad because if you invite him over then it's "leading him on" and if you ignore him, well your seen as rude! But the trick is just be completely honest. Maybe ask him over and just sit and talk about it all. Explain how you feel about him and that you really want NOTHING more than to be friends. If he tries to persuade you just insist that you cannot control your feelings!
If that fails then my advice would be to cut contact with him. Try texting him back less, don't invite him over. Don't avoid him, just don't make as much of an effort with him. You may find that this love wears off and he meets somebody knew.
The bottom line is, be blunt and be honest with him. It's easier to set him in his place now and make it very clear what you want than later on.
Hope this helps and good luck x
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I believe you have already said to him all that you need to say in that regard. You have told him you have no interest in him other than that of a neighbor.
About the only thing left that you could do or warn him with depends a lot on what he says, how he says it and what he does. If he is constantly following you around, that could be considered stalking. Most states have laws against stalking. You have refused to date him and said NO to his request to date him. HIs continued begging for dates could, depending on how he asks you to go out with him. be considered sexual harassment. It could also be considered a form of stalking depending on the laws in your state.
Judging by your age I am going to assume he is about your same age. Boys this age are hard headed in that they think they can persuade you by persistence. That once you go out with them you will fall head over heals for them. You would be surprised how often this works. The problem today is what they do and how they do it can be illegal.
It is up to you if you want to file a complaint against him. What I suggest you do is tell him that his continues interest in you and continued pushing for a relationship with you is bordering on sexual harassment and stalking. If he doesn't stop immediately you will file a complaint and request a ac ort ordered Order of Protection.
Whether you follow through with this threat is up to you. The threat alone hopefully will be enough to get your message across to him that you can't do anything about the fact you are neighbors. But that doesn't mean you have to have a relationship with him and you don't want one. He needs to back off of face the legal consequences of his actions.
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