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sexually attracted to women, emotionally attracted to men
I m from srilanka and here homosexual activities are illiegal and none talk about it openly. im 22 years old and im a girl. i found out im sexually attracted to girls one year ago, but i guess ive always been that. but im so attracted to boys emotionally. i love the way they treat me and their love. wherever i go guys get attracted to me too. should mention though lesbian im girlish in every way to the extreme. i luv to date a guy... but i dont want to cheat. i luv it if i can tell the truth and start a relation ship with a guy. but i study in a college and im scared if i say ds to a guy he ll spread all over and ill be bulleyed and treated in a bad way. im tired of ignoring guys when i also love them...:( and im very clear ill not be dating a girl even if i was in amarica..im not emotionally attracted to them, i can only think of them as friends..i feel very uncared and unloved right now...and please someone suggest me a solution.
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I'm not sure what you mean by emotionally attracted, but it's possible to meet a woman who could treat you the way men do. It's also possible to just realize that you're attracted to different individuals for different reasons and don't worry so much about what you get from each gender as a group. When you form a relationship, let's say your future partner is "Jamie," it can be a girl's or guy's name, what you will love about Jamie isn't just that Jamie has one set of genitals or another, it will be the complete person. Try to see each person you're attracted to as unique and appreciate your attraction without worrying what it means so much. Sexuality is often so fluid, don't paint yourself one way or another just yet when it sounds like you're still figuring yourself out. As far as your relationships go, though, do be careful not to put yourself in danger without careful consideration. There are still a lot of bigoted people in the world.
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I have heard of other women in the same spot exactly as you and confused by it.
I can only say from experience of knowing some women like that, it is normal and okay to feel both ways. I don't have a solution but I do have some explanation of your sexual/ emotional situation.
Here is how these women I've met explained it to me. They discovered over time that if a label must be used to describe themselves, they most closely could be called bisexual. This did not mean they wanted both men and women equally. They were sexually attracted to women. But they liked the emotional attachment of females, however these women were all married to a male. They found that they were able to find just one man only that they loved and had a sexual attraction to besides the emotional one. But beyond that, still had no interest in men sexually. They still desired women so they told their husbands who were all okay with it. She was privately seeking out females for friend and lover. In the U.S. you have the freedom by law regarding sexual orientation though some people may be prejudiced yet. If you don't have the law protecting these rights in your country, you may have to find a guy who is very supportive and understanding and okay with it and also the one man you are interested in sexually. That could be risky, revealing such a thing about yourself to a guy. So I have no idea what to tell you to do. all I know is that it is a slight possibility in your case that you may be able to find one guy that works for a marriage for you. Whether you ever do anything with a female on the side is something that is even harder. I have no advice what to do on that. I wish you the best dear.
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