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about the semi truck guy
The reason I say im scared to tell him how i feel because I dont want to lose him as a friend. Is because im scared if I tell him and he doesn't feel the same way. That it will make it awkward and we will stop talking. Thats the thing. Im a negative person who wants to just do everything so I dont regret it later but I start over thinking everything and talk myself out of it. And I just dont know how to change that
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If you like to over-think, all you have to do is imagine how you'd feel if he told you he was engaged to another lady and you got invited to his wedding as a guest, not the bride. If you can be okay with that, then you don't have to say a thing to him about how you feel.
If the hurt of imagining him getting married to someone else someday is stronger than the slight possibility that he stops being your friend when telling him how you feel, then it's better that you say, "John, the time we were apart gave me time to think about how much I really miss having you in my life. In fact, I think I may be falling for you." Thats information that just can't be ignored by a guy. If he has any feelings at all, or even if he hasn't stopped to think about how deeply he cares about you, he will take the time now to become introspective and really look at how much you mean to him. Its not easy thing to do, but if you know you'd be still kicking yourself someday when you're 35, and he's married with kids, and you have never committed to any other guy cus you still pine for him, then its better to take the possible risk of losing him now compared to for sure losing him to another. You wont be saying "I am in love with you" as if you are already there at that realization, (even if its true) but saying you're in a process of getting there. This way, if he doesnt feel the same he can tell you for sure right away and continue on as friends. If this is the case, things may still change when he meets another woman. He'll spend more time with her, she becomes his best friend, bumping everyone else down a notch or two and she may have issues with him speaking to and being close friends with past women friends so he'd be restricted in spending time with you. This is a whole lot of supposing, on what might happen. I do not foresee the future, and I doubt you have that ability either, or you wouldn't be over-thinking. You're in a spot where no matter if you take action or not, you still may not get the results you want because he has choice and freewill. Telling him, can't possibly make things any worse than all of the scenerios and final outcomes I mentioned as possibilities. If you want to look at it in a negative way, end result is possibility that you are doomed no matter if you speak up or not to end up hurt. However if you do speak up, and he feels the same, the odds are in your favor. Good luck dear.
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