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Does he still like me?
I'm 14 and he is 13, I'm in the 9th grade he's in the 8th. Basically we've both being talking since December 2013 and now we don't talk as much unless there's something to talk about, I will admit that I still like him.. A lot. We've been out twice and the first time I left him because he was ignoring me whereas the second time he dumped me because he wasn't ready for a relationship.
So, I see him every weekday at school and I see him literally everywhere I go! I catch him staring at me whenever I'm near him and so do my friends, when he sees that I'm looking he quickly turns away and my friends say this is a sign that he likes me. I was meeting his cousin at the weekend (just as friends) and then he asked his cousin to come along and he literally wouldn't stop looking at me!
Does he still like me?
Also I really like him still and I would really like to get back into a relationship with him!
Any ideas on what I could do!?
Thank you! X
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I don't quite agree with the others. I think he is watching to see if you are going to come toward him so he can walk off before you get there. I could be wrong but my knowledge of teenage boys tells me he would not have ignored you the first time you were seeing him and he would not have dumped you the second time. I have two boys and they never reacted that way around girls they liked. As a matter of fact they usually made complete fools of themselves over a girl they liked by trying to make money to take her to the movies and buying gifts for her but they never to my knowledge ignored or dumped a girl they liked. I think this whole thing about him looking at you is wishful thinking on your part. My advice to you is move on and let it go but if you really need to be sure then fall back on the age old plan of sending a friend to ask him. The cousin would probably be a good choice!I hope it works out the way you want it to. Good luck!
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If he's still looking, almost guaranteed he's still interested to some degree.
At your ages, neither of you will have acquired enough dating and relationship skills to feel confident to attempt dating without having anxieties or doubts and 2nd guessing as to what certain actions and words mean.
Girls have their share of anxieties but seem to be naturally ahead of guys when it comes to some basics at relationship skills, at least with girlfriends but lots of the same can apply as when having conversation with the opposite sex.
I am guessing that when you left the first time it really bothered him. It probably took all his guts to just ask you out, or if you asked, to go out with you. But he was so scared to interact with you that he froze up and did nothing.
If he said the 2nd time that he was dumping you cus he wasn't ready for a relationship, perhaps he really decided he doesnt want to date yet. But if he's still staring at you like he does,S he said that only to convince himself, thinking that if he was too scared to talk with you whenS the two of you are off by yourselves, that it means he's not ready. I think he's just very scared.
As a girl, since you are good with talking to girlfriends and other people, if you want to pursue a friendship with him like gf bf, then its up to you to gently show him how.
If he was talking fine in the beginning but not now, hey thats happened to me as an adult too. Before I met my 2nd husband I was dating and in the beginning, it was easy to talk to share our stories, what our jobs are, how many kids we had, our beliefs, any dreams or goals, just the kind of stuff to get us to know lots about each other in a short time. Once we both finished telling our stories about ourselves, we could find nothing to talk about, because we didn't have enough in common to talk about. Tho this could be a reason that all of a sudden he finds it hard to talk to you, i believe its more likely that he has no idea how to proceed from this point on.
If you decide to go talk to him, make him feel comfortable with how awkward he feels. You can do this by telling him that you don't know much about dating yet and apologize for leaving that one time and ask if he's willing to start over again starting just as friends for now and you can date later when you're both older and ready. This psychologically takes the pressure off of having to behave a certain way and know things to be able to date. Just start out with talking about things you have in common like you do with girlfriends. Eventually he should slowly warm up. In the beginning there won't be enough trust for him to really tell you what fears or inadequacies he feels he has. After some time, when he feels he can trust you, and you ask what is bothering him, or why he's so quiet that day, he may
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