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My mum said it's sinful and wrong
I masturbate every weekend. I like doing it bcause it makes me feel good but my mum said it's sinful to masturbate. She said that doing it is entirely wrong. We are christian. She even said it's bad in God's eyes. But It makes me feel good and avoid stress. What should I do? Is this wrong?
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There are two sides to every issue. Your mom believes in what the church teaches. I believe in what I see and what the numbers or statistics tell me.
Statistically according to a recent study 85% of us masturbate. That would mean in a family of 4 statistically 3.4 people masturbate. To break it down even a bit further just what is masturbation.
A. It is the sexual pleasuring of oneself through manipulating or pleasuring ones own sexual organs.
B. Mutual-Masturbation where someone else fingers or pleasures a partner's sexual organ.
C. Oral sex is also a form of Masturbation.
Anything that involves sexual pleasuring by oneself or by another that does not involve intercourse, penis to vagina penetration. I consider to be a form of masturbation. By this definition if your parents have a healthy sex life; then your parents enjoy some form of masturbation.
It would be statically impossible for 85% of the worlds population to indulge in some form of masturbation as the majority of the worlds population is made up of Christians and Jews.
That was the factual side of my answer. The Bible does not truly forbid masturbation. It is an interpretation of sex being only between a man and a women and only for the purpose of procreation. It is not a mortal sin to Masturbate and in fact I have read an article in a Christian publication that the church while not condoning it does not actually object to masturbation.
So why do parents continue to tell their children not to masturbate. For only one reason. They feel that masturbation will lead to wanting to try the real thing. To wanting to have sex before you are old enough and mature enough to have sex.
There is nothing wrong with masturbation, it is actually a healthy outlet for the sexual tension brought on by puberty. It is also a better outlet than trying to get a girl or a boy depending on who is doing the asking, to have sex with you.
For a girl masturbation is definitely the safest form of sex as no one has ever gotten pregnant from masturbating. For the boy it is also the best form of sex as it relieves the sexual tension he has and does not put him in the position of getting a girl pregnant.
Is it wrong to masturbate; NO. What should you do? I shouldn't tell you to go against what your mother told you. There are at least 15% of the population that does not masturbate. Now that you have tried it will be hard not to.
My best advise is that there is nothing wrong with masturbation. You will not go blind or grow hair in the palm of your hand or anything else some may tell you to cause you not to. Masturbation is not harmful. If you chose to continue then do so in a manner that mom does not see the results, such as in the shower or hear you doing so.
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