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Am I being Selfish?
I love my boyfriend more than anymore. I still live with my parents and he lives with his mother and neither of us can drive. Lately, due to money problems, I'm not able to see him much anymore, cause we can barely afford the bills and groceries. Since I can't afford to even go see him anymore, am I being selfish by staying in the relationship? I'm 21 and female.
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The short answer here is no, you are not being selfish. In fact, I would suggest that selfishness is quite the opposite of what you are being right now.
Have you discussed this with your boyfriend? If so, what are his thoughts? I assume he knows about the financial situation your family is facing and since he hasn't decided that the two of you should break up, he must be ok in dealing with things as they are at the moment.
True selfishness implies that you are doing something for your own benefit AND at the expense of or without any regard for others. You are not doing that here and thus you are not acting in a selfish way.
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I don't see how. I mean you don't have to see someone to be in a relationship with them. There are other ways to communicate, although seeing each other and being together in person would be so much better, it's not impossible. I mean you'll see long distance relationships work out so it really isn't impossible or selfish.
If you guys have a set goal that you guys will see each other eventually, then it'll work out.
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No I do not believe you are being selfish. If you love your boyfriend as much as you say you do & he loves you then you guys will be able to work through this. Not being able to see each other sucks. It's hard. It's lonely. It's upsetting. It sucks. But you can call each other, text each other, skype each other, facetime each other & you'll be able to get through it. As long as you are able to communicate with each other and you don't get angry/upset for not being able to see each other as much as you like, you will be able to do this.
Maybe you can't go see him, but can he come see you? If he can then great! If he can't then do what I said before.
Like I said, not seeing each other sucks but you will be able to get through it.
My boyfriend and I live about an hour and 30 minutes away from each other. (Which isn't that bad at all) and we can't see each other as much as we would like but we work it out by calling/texting each other and working it out. It's hard but it's totally doable. I wouldn't call either of us selfish for staying in the relationship even though we can't see each other as much as we would like.
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