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This is still related to CF thingy
could I be wrong if I would tell him about how I feel? Few months ago when it was new year, I spent my whole night talking with him. He told me that his world changed when we started chatting. He even said he'll never lose me as frnd. I told him that he means alot to me but sooner or later we would forget each other. And he said he will never forget me and i must not forget him to. But i said he must forget me coz i will forget him coz im just being practical and also literally we would forget each. But he said his heart will break if i would forget. He wants to visit me this summer or next yr. Is he falling? Thnk u so much.
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The problem with sharing our feelings and telling someone who is a cyber friend how we feel, is that our feelings are part based on fantasy and part reality....they are not total reality. So it is unfair and can get up the hopes of someone with a self esteem issue, or other issues.
If could be something he was going through in life at the time and you happened along on the internet just at a time of his emotional need. So maybe it did have impact on his life at the time enough to say his world changed. I dont' know details of conversations so just guessing here.
You are too concerned with the future. You can't live tomorrow today. You can only live today, today. So it becomes irrelevant whether you or he forget each other in the future.
Have you asked yourself why you keep stressing to him he must forget you? Are you trying to create a convenient exit for yourself in case you grow tired of him or perhaps you're at that stage already now?
So you are connecting his wanting to visit you this summer for falling in love with you? I can't begin to guess what his reason for wanting to visit is and if it has any meaning behind it. You're probably over thinking it. Just enjoy the visit and see how you feel then about him, if you still want to talk to him online, then do so when he returns, if during the visit you realize you have nothing in common at all and you can't imagine why he ever interested you in the first place, then tell him thanks for visiting but you don't have any interest any longer in keeping in contact. Don't beat around the bush. Dont make promises you can't or dont want to keep. We all have to face disappointments and breakups in life. Its painful, and we all survive them and move on to other relationships. So don't worry about him, he'll eventually get over it.
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