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Miss "Nice" Is Sick Of It
I am a seventeen year old girl with low self esteem problems yet not afraid to admit it - it's a free country, I'll have to deal with that later. My problem here is that I can't talk about this with anybody from home or school - it'll probably end up offending somebody in the long run. That's how unfortunately nice I can be. I'm a senior - obviously - and my class decided to make a play based on a novel we read in our Spanish class. The actors were picked - mind you, there weren't that many characters for us to fill, being that there were barely fifteen characters and fifty six students in our class. The teacher decided to make a grade, so everybody had to participate one way or another.
There were the general staff that kept order during the play, publicists that took care of...well making the play public and selling the tickets, those that handled all the make up and wardrobes of each character, the actors, and...the scenographers. I volunteered to be part of that crew along with thirteen other students. The reason why I did this was because I love art and it's very fun for me. However...there were many inconveniences on the way.
- We had to make a script out of the novel - at first it was teacher's job because she said she WOULD do it, but then she gave the job to the students. A little too late, which caused problems for all of us. No script, meant no solid guide for the actors. No script, meant no scenography, which meant that Light and Sound Effects rushed ME, to give them the scenography so they could do their stuff.
- Actors are always treated like the Queens and Kings of the show because if they decide to quit we're all hopelessly doomed.
- Our teacher got into a lot of stress because she was too late for everything - which wasn't OUR fault at all - and she started developing a more sour and mandatory attitude towards everybody, ESPECIALLY scenography. During the first official practice she was yelling at us because a lot of the utility was missing. Guess who's fault really was that they were missing? The actors kicked and pushed all of our boxes in their hurry to improvise, but do they get a berating? No, of course not, they were doing their job. We're the irresponsible ones as always.
We have to do the play three times, two down, one to go. I am stressed in so many ways you can't even imagine - I don't just have the physical and emotional stress of getting yelled at by my teacher and "friends", but I also have to worry about school work, work with my parents and university. A few days ago I even had low presion - my chest felt so cramped I couldn't move around a lot.
I just needed to get all of that off my chest. I can't confide in anybody and anybody I DO confide in will ignore me and never listen to a word. I'm pretty much invisible to my fellow classmates, always have been. So, if anybody has any kind of suggestion, advice, relaxing treatment, I'm listening - well, reading.
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So after all you said, all you want is a way to get rid of feeling stressed, ways to deal with it? Am I right? If so, keep reading cus I have a set of things for you to do that are easy, known to help with depression, let alone stress which can lead to depression.
When a person is stressed, their body will use up more Neurotransmitters to help them cope with the stress. Add in too much stress and it all gets used up faster than the body can naturally bring the reserve levels of NTs back up. When they are low to non existant for too long, thats what we refer to as being 'depressed'. Its depressed levels of what your body needs to cope with the stress.
Here's an article that explains it all without my having to type it out for you. Then I will give you the tips on what to do to help bring up those NT levels and hormones quickly.
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Yes, there is something you can do that will instantly jump start your body into creating more NT's and feel good hormones. I came across a article in a blog once on the internet that explains it well. When one of my daughters got depressed after a 2nd boyfriend broke up with her, it was real bad this time and she was unable to bounce back. I told her what to do but hey, it's just mom, what does she know, right? So through her job, she went for her one free visit to a psychologist who told her everything she could do herself since she would be unable to come in for sessions, and the list he gave her is exactly what I came across.
It's going to sound crazy, really silly and not believable but you're not going to get results if you don't trust me enough to give it a try, cus what have you got to lose, as silly as it makes you feel.
1. Find reasons to laugh. Laughter is good medicine for a reason. It helps raise these low levels. So watch your favorite comedies, get on the net and find comedy acts to watch. Talking about the hard belly ache laughter here.
2. Listen to uplifting music. I can't say what is uplifting to you but it's going to be something you've always felt when hearing a certain melody, its not the lyrics that count, its the sound. What you're looking for is listening to the songs that make your heart feel light as a balloon as if it were about to float out of your chest. A melody that does it for me is "Clocks" by Coldplay. I have a small collection of songs I play and sing along to whenever I begin to feel a stressed feeling coming on, which warns me my levels are too low.
3. This brings me to the next point--singing. Singing helps to raise those NTs and hormones. So don't just listen to music, sing along.
4. Movement...action is important. Think of how many people you've heard of who lack energy, want to stay in bed all day and do nothing when severely depressed. Doing nothing will only keep a person stuck so doing the opposite, movement will help. It is suggested that a person walk, jog, do exercise or a more fun version of movement, dancing. So just move to the music. There's that music again. Its all tied together as you can see. I have tried skipping, like a little kid would do. Hadn't done it since I was a kid. Imagine a woman in her 50's skipping down the street. I felt silly but as I continued, I began to laugh hilariously at myself and I feel the stress just melt off instantly.
5. Give hugs and get hugs. Have you heard of hugging therapy? Bet you haven't. But in recent years it is becoming more popular. A true prolonged bear hug with another person is much needed to help keep the levels up. One hug per day won't do. It is suggested that around 8 per day will help. So...give a hug and you automatically recieve one. Can't think of anyone you like enough to give a hug to? Hug a stranger.
* The first five are things that will have the quickest effects. Here are more
6. Meditate. This means you're taking time to let your mind relax, not focus on your problems or tasks to be done. This takes some practice to do well and learn how to stop your subconscious mind from just constantly wandering off to dwell on things that rob you of your peace.
7. Learn to forgive. Did you know that when you hold a grudge or hold on to your anger, you are
putting a huge energetic tax on your system? Think of it like picking up a heavy weight and having to carry it around with you all the time. As long as we focus on what was done to us from a negative viewpoint instead of finding the ability to forgive, we keep reliving the experiences as a victim rather than remembering them as an overcomer.
8. Being Grateful/Thankful. Gratitude is one of the highest states you can achieve. No matter what’s going on in your life, you can find something for which to be grateful. Even when something terrible has happened to you, chose to find the blessing or positive point in the situation. Such as: "I am grateful to the people who were challenging to me today because it gave me the
opportunity to grow." And it could be something simple as "I am grateful to have the warmest, coziest bathrobe in the world."
The last three tend to have something to do with our thoughts and our brain. If these 3 are not addressed in your life, then all the relief you find with the first 5 steps will be dropped down to lower levels again. So learning to work on the last three as becoming a part of who you are will help greatly.
You should now understand what it means when the NTs and hormones are at critically low levels for you to be able to function normally. If not, think of it like a car low on oil to lubricate the parts. You can make the engine freeze up and ruin it. The low levels in a cars oil could be due to an oil leak and a check up for the car would reveal that.
Its just the same for a human. To make a comparison, the oil leak would be like a medical issue contributing to the problem. Just as a cars oil will get used up in the daily functioning on the road, and need to be replaced regularly, so it is with us, we actually need daily if not every other day techniques used to raise our levels again as they get used up. Unfortunately this is not taught to humans at all at any point in their life. Depression is just the humans 'indicator light' saying that 'their oil' is low.
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