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I am so nervous... I told something I promised not to tell! :(
Awhile back I was dating this guy and ee had sex and he told me not to tell anyone but I kinda had to because I thought I was pregnant so I told my cousins husband because he is like my dad since my real dad died when I was really young and he said he wasn't mad at me just disapointed and I am nervous because he is going to give the boy a piece of his mind for having se eith me and then leaving a week after and he said what he is going to say isn't going to be ve very nice cc at all any advice please.
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I know why your cousins’ husband feels as he does. You were used by this boy something I tell girls who write to us and say they are going to have sex or want to have sex.
Teenage boys are sort of hard wired to have sax. As such they have a different definition of love. TO them lust and love are the same. In general one a girl has sex with them they lose interest I her and move on to another. I remember when I was a teenager some of the guys actually had a game of seeing how many girls they could have sex with each school year. You got points for different sex acts. Actual intercourse got the most points and if you took girls virginity you got mega points.
Unlike boy most girls cannot and will not have sex just for the sake of having sex. They need a commitment. Most teenage boys will say just about anything to get in girls pants. One of the most well used lines is; if you love me you will have sex with me." You don't have sex with someone to prove your love for them. Sex is the end result of loving someone the culmination if you will.
This is what is upsetting you cousins’ husband. Having been a young male himself he knows all too well what happened between you. Frankly I would be doing the same thing. If in fact the boy is much older than you I would be doing more than giving him a piece of my mind. I would probably be talking to the police.
Since some of the story is missing, not your fault you hit the highlights, I don't think you can talk you cousins husband out of talking to this boy. Legally you cannot consent to having sex until you reach the age of consent that is the law. The fact that the guy told you not to tell anyone you had sex with him makes me wonder how old his is and if having sex with him makes him a sex criminal. You’re not going to be able to stop your cousins husband so don’t try. If this guy is that much older than you that sex with you is a criminal act for him, he is getting off easy.
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Are you actually pregnant? Because if you aren't I think you have a way better chance of talking him out of yelling at the guy (plus, how likely is it that he would cross paths with this dude?) Tell your cousin's husband that it was consensual - it was your decision too, and that you've learned your lesson about using contraception in the future, and, moreover, holding off on such a serious step until you've been with the guy long enough to know he won't just use you for sex.
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