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Lapband, is it worth getting to remain happy??
I am a 35 year old overweight woman. My guy of 2 years doesn't like fat girls, AT ALL, so i sent him a fake picture at the beginning. I recently sent him a real pic of me, and he broke up with me. I am so in love with this man, and i don't want to lose what we have. I really need to get healthy anyways, so i am thinking about getting the Lapband surgery. It will basically be for health reasons, but it mostly will be to stay happy n keep my relationship alive. I am tired of being alone. My brother says considering that he is locked up, and i was willing to accept that stipulation, that he should be open to continue to love me the same, cause weight is something that can be easily fixed n should not be a deal breaker. SHOULD I DO THIS TO REMAIN HAPPY??
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If you want to lose weight you do so for yourself and not for anyone else. When I guy breaks up with you because of your physical appearance and says what he said. He is first and foremost an idiot and someone who is looking for a trophy woman.
I will concede that being overweight is not healthy. depending on how overweight you are you could be hurting yourself and opening yourself up to many different health problems. That being said it remains that losing weight has to be something you do for yourself. You must want to lose the weight.
Should YOU decide that YOU wish to lose weight you start by visiting your doctor. There are physical reasons why people are overweight such as thyroid problems. These need to be checked for before you start any diet if you wish to be successful. So a full physical is called for telling your doctor you wish to go on a diet one the doctor will supervise.
While the doctor is examining you ask to be screened for depression. Nothing says you are depressed. Depression is another reason people are overweight. People who suffer from clinical depression sometimes turn to food for comfort; those that do become overweight. Statistically 1 in 3 people suffer from some form of clinical depression at some time in their life. The test is painless as it is just a bunch of questions the doctor asks with which a diagnoses can be made. Answer the questions as honestly as possible and with the first answer to come to mind.
Most importantly if you chose to diet you do so for yourself and no one else. If you do so for yourself you will be successful. As far as the idiot is concerned; Frankly he does not deserve you so let him be.
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personally I would not. if a guy truely loves you, he will love you no matter what you look like. you shouldn't have to change anything about you to make you're self "acceptable" to others. I mean, you might get lonely at times, but you don't want to rush into a relashonship with a guy who wants to change you . it's not worth it. eventually the right man will come along that likes you for you. don't change anything, your perfect just the way you are :)
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