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Feeling Unloved
14/f
I'm skinny, have short blonde hair, and very slightly tanned white skin. I try very hard to look nice; I wear make-up ( little to no mascara, light concealer, and a clear lipgloss, usually.), clean, nice clothes, and my hair is healthy, and 'cute', but people call me lesbian because of it. I get constantly shamed because people can see my make-up line (ex: today a girl laughed aloud and pointed at my face saying, "haha it's like one skin tone,and then another one". People also say things about my eyes, whose colors are very pretty, but they are.. "buggy". Yesterday a boy pointed at me and said, "hey it looks like your eyes are buldging out of your head haha". I tried really hard not to cry. I recently heard that this girl in my class was accidentally called my name by her guy friend, and she said, "Ew! I'm not ugly!". I asked her why she said that and she apologized and said it was an inside joke. I told her that I wouldn't have understood it even if it wasn't an inside joke. I feel very unloved, and I don't understand why. I mean, I'm 5'3", B-cupped, tall, skinny, but in an athletic way. I look in a mirror and see myself as pretty, but then I hear these comments and I don't understand. I'm nice to everyone as best I can, I get good grades... I don't understand. Could anyone explain this?
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They may be exaggerating and you may simply have beautiful prominent eyes like Anne Hathaway or Susan Sarandon. But if there is any chance that your eyes are actually bulging out of the eye socket, it could be a sign of a medical problem that can be treated with medicine. Here's a link that describes it. Please show the link to your parents
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I can't explain why kids are the way they are. What I can tell you is that the way they are has been that way since about the beginning of time. What I will attempt to do is suggest ways to limit their cruelty.
From what you have written you sound like a very pretty young lady. Why are you hiding this under makeup? Another thing about the makeup is you say; "I get constantly shamed because people can see my make-up line." This tells me you are either wearing too much makeup or the wrong makeup. Your makeup should blend into your skin and there should not be a makeup line.
As I said from what you have written I see no reason to even wear makeup, maybe some lip gloss and if you must some light eye liner. If you feel you must wear makeup then go to a department store when the cosmetician or makeup artist is there who can help you chose the right makeup and show you how to properly apply it. Given your age you may want to have your mom with you as they will most likely want moms permission.
As to "Buggy eyes" I'm not sure what that means. What I can assure you is that whatever it means it is not a permanent situation. As you go through puberty everything about you will change. Becoming a woman is not just growing breasts and getting a period. Your entire body changes, your hips grow, your butt changes, your stomach flattens and your entire face changes shape to become softer and more womanly.
As for the lesbian thing: They have no idea what they are talking about. Come up with a smart reply. Something like, "He, he it takes one to know one.
What is most important though is to ignore them for they are idiots. You have a good self-esteem about you and that is good. Do not let them take that away from you. Enjoy being a teenager for you only have one chance at being a teenager. Most importantly enjoy being you. You sound like someone people need to know. Anyone who avoids you is the one who is losing, not you.
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