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Mom getting on my nerves -_-
I usually never ask for anything!! But I finally asked my mom if I could get a phone because I have never had my own phone & I really wanted one. So my mom said I can have an Iphone as a late Christmas gift. & when I reminded her about it she said she doesn't know if I deserve one because of my attitude!! I mean come on! I clean the whole house everyday, I always get A's & B's, I never give my mom attitude,& I always do whatever she tells me to do. So why is she saying that I am giving her attitude when I never do???
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Sounds like she didn't volunteer to explain what she meant by 'your attitude', and sounds like you didn't bother to ask cus you came up with a list of things in your favor. Whenever someone does not say something you can understand, you need to ask for clarification, this is important basics in any kind of relationships, family, friends, work partners, etc and it is crucial in dating relationships.
Bring up the topic again, dont mention the phone but the 'attitude'. Ask mom what she meant by it because you are totally unaware of what you are doing that could be improved. If there are any changes you could do to make things better, of course you want to do so. Ask her to spell out with examples and don't try to jump in to defend yourself. Mom may have a valid point or sometimes parents are as inept at relationships and communication as their kids and can be immature on top of that.
For all I know, your mom could have been making a broad statement as a flimsy excuse to not give you a phone because she doesnt want to pay the extra for a family plan for phone use.
If indeed this is what is going on and you question mom to explain herself, be prepared that there is a possibility she will come unglued and become angry that you just didn't accept her blanket statement and now she has to explain 'what' attitudes you have when there aren't any. That would be total immaturity. Theres nothing you can do about a parent like that. Find a way to earn money on your own and pay for your own phone, like a pay as you go one for when you have the money.
Now to be fair, lets say you do have an attitude that needs dealing with but its a matter of perspectives. You don't see it as an attitude but just your normal self. However she is assuming this is an attitude. Or, it could be that something about you has changed since beginning to go through puberty. Hormones can make a girl girl either cry a lot, be really sad and overly touchy, or she gets angry much easier, is more easily irritated, has less patience and Its not necessarily girls choosing to become like this, its the hormones doing it. When hormonal teen girls are angry or irritated, often the first to recieve her impatient attitude or angry attitude is mom, a sister, or a female friend most often when they have done nothing to earn it.
i wonder if something like this may be going on. So try talking to her. Mom was once a teen and may have forgotten about the hormonal thing we all go through. If thats the case, she should be hugging you rather than complaining about you, volunteering to help you work on controlling your emotions but maybe speaking a code word to alert you when she sees it but you save face before others. Remember to remain calm, not over react back and have a good talk with mom.
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