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He ignored me after
My best guy friend and I met when I was thirteen. He was fifteen. Im 21 and hes now 23. We have liked each other for years but never had the guts to say it. So this passed weekend we hung out and we were both drunk. He ends up confessing everything. We end up sleeping together. He tells me he wants us to be more than friends and that hes tired of chasing me. That after that night the ball is in my court. I haven't heard from him ever since. I feel used. But anyway. The reason why I neved allowed anything to happen between us is because I knew him too well. So now I feel stupid for being vulnerable like one of his other playmates.
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So he said the ball is in your court - and you never contacted him?
I'm a bit confused here. It sounds like this guy told you, pretty clearly, that he wasn't going to reach out to you. That he was going to give you space to think about what happened and get back to him, and you never got back to him.
He told you he was tired of chasing you.
He told you the ball was in your court.
You aren't doing yourself, or him, any favors by assuming he was just playing with you. That's a really mean thing to think of a guy who has been your friend for so long and who, as far as his actions go, appears to be totally honest with you: He told you what he wanted. He told you what he was going to do. He did what he said he was going to.
That isn't the behaviour of a guy who is using you. A guy who tells you what he feels, what he wants, and what he is going to do, and then does it - that is the behaviour of an intelligent and respectful guy.
TALK TO HIM. If you never want anything like what happened to happen again. If you only want to be friends, tell him. If you don't want to be friends anymore, tell him. At this point, he is probably feeling like you are ignoring him - and you are.
Stop assuming he's an evil user and player. Nothing you've said suggests he deserves such a harsh judgement from you. In fact, he sounds like he was pretty direct and clear about what he wanted and what he was going to do. If you want to be nice to him, try to be just as clear about what you want, and what you are going to do moving forward.
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