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Why can't I find a boyfriend
In my class there is a boy I really love but I didn't have the guts to ask him to be my boyfriend at first but I finally did ! I asked him if he liked me and he said yes :) but then he said but I wanna know a bit more about you so I told him a bit about my life but then he said no I'm not ready for a girlfriend yet and then the next day this girl who is so anoying to me asked him out and he said YES !!!!! I felt so sad :( and every time I walk up to him by the football pitch I always get hit on the head with a stupid footy ball which really embarrasses me! And now I've spent two years not even being in his class and that girl who is dating him keeps on trying to make me feel jealous!!!
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i have never had a boyfriend before, so im probably not the best at this, but i say that shes just trying to make you jealous. if its been over two years and he hasnt tried to talk to you and at least be friends, girlfriend i say move on. open up a little and step outside your comfort zones. try talking with different guys or keep you eyes open. theres plenty other fish in the sea :) i know it might be hard because you still have feelings for him, but you cant let him hold you back. maybe one day, when he sees how good your doing, he'll regret not going after such a wonderul girl like you!!
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When you asked if he 'liked' you he said yes which was true because he translates the word 'Like' into the words 'attracted to". A person can be attracted to someone and the next stage is talking. During conversation, if the two like how each others minds work and find what the other says to be fascinating, then they ask each other out to spend time hanging out together to know each other even better. Anywhere along the point from going beyond just visual attraction to the marriage alter, one or both may decide this is not the right person for them.
At his age, I highly doubt he has figured out yet what he is looking for in a girl beyond what he is sexually wanting to experience.
From what you said, the 2nd girl who got him, has an immature attitude by trying to rub it in your face that she got him and you didn't. A guy attracted to a girl that immature is not looking for someone he can become close to, best friends and really care deeply about and treat well. So you lucked out when he rejected you. Stop feeling jealous and feel sorry for the poor gal because she may get lots of dates but if she doesn't learn at some point in life how to become the woman a guy wants to stay with forever, totally dedicated to loving and supporting her and wanting to be the guy to take loving care of you the rest of his life. Obviously teens are kinda young to be looking for a marriage partner right now, but it doesnt hurt to practice.
Young boys haven't made enough mistakes yet to learn what is worth going after so in your age range, there isn't much I can tell you to do except to be yourself, be confident and perhaps study some you tube videos on how to act, what a guy is attracted to in a woman, how to get the guy which translates to what catches a guys interest and it has less to do with your looks and more to do with your attitude and how you carry yourself. You may have to wait for the males your age to grow up to realize this. But it wouldn't hurt to start studying now. Then by time you are an adult, you will have guys falling alll over themselves to find a way to get you to notice and want him, you will have your choice of picking the one who most fits you perfectly as a best friend and lover. This other girl will have her time to be jealous and be wondering why she can't find a guy to marry her. And she will have to in later years learn the same things you did now while still in school.
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or you can put in searches for youtube videos on how to attract men. Whether young teen boys or older adult men, they are pretty simple and basic and the same instructions apply but watching the ones for adult men, you may get more detail than the articles I gave you.
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