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I met this guy at my best friend's party who seemed interested for a while
I've finally met a very special guy. We have friends in common and he has an amazing story. He's an orphan, suffered a lot but you can't tell. There isn't anyone who doesn't like him. He's a very happy, kind, polite and naturally nice-to-everyone guy. We talked a lot during the party and exchanged numbers. A few hours after the party he texted saying he loved meeting me and wish it had happened before... All my friends (girls) who knew him already think he's interested. We texted a lot for the following couple of days but all of a sudden it stopped. I don't think I should start texting again. He just won't come talk to me anymore. Has he lost interest? Can't stop thinking about him, don't know what to do
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Is he out of school but working a job, or is he in school, HS or college or perhaps he is juggling both? Its possible you don't know what his schedule is totally like and if he has any thing else important that needs his focus and attention right now. Girls tend to like a guy and make him the top priority in their life while guys will have many priorities they juggle in their life, but if a girl is important to them, she'll be one of his top 3 priorities, whatever they may be...so his focus will be divided on other things than you at times, that doesn't mean he is any less interested.
Why do you not think you should text him first? How else will you learn whats going on in his life, and how else will he know you still are interested and miss hearing from him. When you say he wont come talk to you...does that mean in the couple of days after the party, he not only texted but came by to visit you too? I can't tell you what is going on with him, probably nothing unusual going on at all, nothing to worry about.
You must one of the important crucial things in any relationship....good communication. Whenever a guy says or does something you don't understand, dont sit mutely and accept it at the moment only to ask others what it means later. The only way to know whats up is to ask the guy and to ask at the moment he said something you don't understand, or the moment a question comes to mind. Be sure not to call several times a time or every hour wondering why you haven't heard from him yet...thats the other extreme from not asking at all. That type of action doesnt make a gal look too good, more needy. But it is okay to call and say, something about how you got use to daily calls or visits and now that you havent heard for a day or two, you were concerned for him and wondering if everything is okay. This is a friendly enquiryIs he out of school but working a job, or is he in school, HS or college or perhaps he is juggling both? Its possible you don't know what his schedule is totally like and if he has any thing else important that needs his focus and attention right now. Girls tend to like a guy and make him the top priority in their life while guys will have many priorities they juggle in their life, but if a girl is important to them, she'll be one of his top 3 priorities, whatever they may be...so his focus will be divided on other things than you at times, that doesn't mean he is any less interested.
Why do you not think you should text him first? How else will you learn whats going on in his life, and how else will he know you still are interested and miss hearing from him. When you say he wont come talk to you...does that mean in the couple of days after the party, he not only texted but came by to visit you too? I can't tell you what is going on with him, probably nothing unusual going on at all, nothing to worry about.
You must one of the important crucial things in any relationship....good communication. Whenever a guy says or does something you don't understand, dont sit mutely and accept it at the moment only to ask others what it means later. The only way to know whats up is to ask the guy and to ask at the moment he said something you don't understand, or the moment a question comes to mind. Be sure not to call several times a time or every hour wondering why you haven't heard from him yet...thats the other extreme from not asking at all. That type of action doesnt make a gal look too good, more needy. But it is okay to call and say, something about how you got use to daily calls or visits and now that you havent heard for a day or two, you were concerned for him and wondering if everything is okay. this is a friendly enquiry, showing you care enough about him to care if he's okay and nothing terrible has happened. If also shows you are interested in him, cus if you didn't care less, you wouldn't have called. Depending on what he says, accept what he explains and if he still shows interest in you by his responses, don't ask him when you will hear from him next, invite him to something, even if its just to go for a walk, or make popcorn and watch a movie at home, etc... If he is too busy, accept it, cus he probably is. And tell him that you will wait to hear from him when his schedule clears up. At that point is when you stop contacting or checking up on him and wait for him to get in touch with you. If he doesn't maybe he's got a lot on his plate, if it continues too long, he is likely not interested in you to the extent you had hoped
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