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How do I deal with a relative who tells lies about my family?
I have a relative who is a complete drama queen. My family are private people but we make an effort to stay in touch and try to get together for the holidays. In her eyes it isn't enough! She got upset when she ran into my sister at the supermarket and my sister didn't have much to report. What was she supposed to say? She along with the rest of the family live pretty ordinary lives.
My relative also believes my family is part of a cult and she's been telling lies about my family to our other relatives, saying we've been making her life torment for years and my parents have been shielding their kids from her. They believe her. It's weird. I don't remember my relative being a part of my life when I was a kid. Then when I became a teenager, she suddenly wanted to be my mom or something (my relative doesn't have kids). A couple of years ago, everyone was fine and we celebrated the holidays and had alot of fun. Then she calls us up during vacay and tells us to stop all communication. She sent back a holiday card we gave her. Witnessing her hatred, especially to my parents that I love, is really stressing me out.
On top of that she became friends with my best online friend on Facebook and I think she might be telling him lies about me or trying to get information about me to send back to her. He barely talks to me anymore. I feel like I've lost a trustworthy buddy. It's driving me crazy that there's this open drama. I'm both sad and angry and I can't call her up because it would only make things worse.
All that's happened is bringing up some bad memories for me in particular. She blamed me for something when I was a teenager and I almost committed suicide because I didn't realize how evil she could be. I've tried praying, meditating, and I don't have anyone to talk to (or no one wants to talk about it). I don't want to return to that dark road again. How do I deal?
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There is not much you can do against someone like her unless you have substantiated proof she is saying these things to people and that what she is saying is malicious and libel. Then if you wish you can take Civil action in a Circuit Court for Slander and Defamation.
On this type of action you have to prove that her actions were deliberate, harmful and meant to do you a harm. It is one of the hardest cases to win. IF you saw an old movie called "Absence of Malice" you'll understand what I mean. If you haven't seen it try and find a copy. It is not only a good movie it will give you some incite to this cause of action. Just remember this is Hollywood's version.
It might be worth the cost of a Lawyer's fee to have a Lawyer send her a letter threatening legal action unless she stops these slanderous acts. If your only interest is to have her stop, not to be friends again, then this may work.
She may just be a busy body who cares not what she says as long as she can say something and keep everyone focused on her. When she is faced with the possibility of losing whatever worth she has accumulated. She may decide to pick on someone else.
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