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Boyfriend got a Ticket?!
My boyfriend and i have beeen together for 1 and a half years now. And we broke up for about 2-3 months and got back together for one month. Well he told me thatbhe got into a fight with his parents but he didnt tell me what it was about. And then on his business instagram i saw that he was selling some stuff to pay for his speeding ticket. Why didnt he tell me about this? Like do you guys have any ideas? Because frankly im concern about why he didnt just tell me this.
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You're asking the wrong persons. If you want to know what a guy meant when he said something or why he didn't do something, you have to ask. Your mind will get you into all sorts of crazy scenerios over what it could be if you dont ask questions.
So when he told you he fought with his parents, if he never fights with anyone you could have said, "Gee, you never fight with anyone. You're always so peace loving and laid back. What on earth could have made you fight with them? Do you want to talk about it?
Or if he is prone to become argumentative with people...this is just another case of him being his usual self. To start you might have to say something else like, I've met your parents, they're such sweet people, I can't imagine them losing it and having a verbal fight with you. Do you want to tell me what it was about. Start thinking this way in your mind and soon you'll find it easier to ask questions in a friendly manner, asking if its okay, if they don't mind answering. Never demand an answer, just because you are the girlfriend. If two people who are both mature and have total trust developed over time with each other, they will share all sorts of things with their partner and not hold back. YOu've had a rocky relationship so far with him so there's no trust developed yet to share things like this. And its unlikely a private type personality will ever voluntarily without being asked just share information. I'm an open book myself so when I remarried, I found myself a guy who talks and shares as much as I do. The more open communications there is, the easier it will be to continue to grow that trust as we witness our partners back up their words with their deeds and actions.
I don't know if the car he was speeding in is his or his parents car, but if its theirs, theres a chance they were upset that he was speeding using the family car, upset that he could've caused an accident with that kind of driving, hurt himself, others and wrecked the car at worst case scenerio. You don't know what ground rules there are for him is he is still under legal age of 18. He may have broken some rules. Who's to know. If he can not come out and admit what his part was in causing the parents to fight with him, then he has some way to grow yet before he is capable of making mature adult decisions. What he does to pay off his ticket is his business. It only becomes your business if he's stolen some of your things to try to sell.
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