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We haven't talked since yesterday. Help?
(We're both girls by the way, if gender matters)
So my girlfriend is really suicidal. She sometimes tells me she might kill herself soon, and I just didn't know how to respond or to help her. Well me and her were talking last night (Probably until midnight or so), but then I fell asleep. It was just an average conversation, not a fight or anything. Well I texted her when I woke up, and she didn't reply. My best friend texted her too, and she didn't reply either. I understand she might be busy, but she usually tells me if she can't text me the next day or something. I'm just really scared because she's really suicidal and I don't want her to hurt herself :( Any advice?
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I agree with Rahzie. To be a good girlfriend is more than just being supportive. If something happens, you can't help her. Only an adult can so you need to talk to an adult.
Like it's great to be supportive and always there for her but if something happens, you'll end up feelings guilty about not talking about it to an adult.
So talk to her family, or talk to a teacher or counselor. Even if she gets mad, it's better to have her alive and mad than dead.
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Tell an adult.
If the adults in her life know she's suicidal, call one of them.
If the adults in her life don't know, tell someone.
If you can't tell a family member of hers (even an aunt or uncle, or an older sibling) then tell a teacher, or a counsellor who you trust.
The problem here is not just that your girlfriend isn't responding to your text. The problem is that your girlfriend is sharing this burden with you, and that you can't help her with it. Of course you can be loving and supportive, and that's great, but that's not the complete help she needs. You aren't capable of the full help she needs, even if you were both adults, she'd need more than what her girlfriend can offer. Right now only an adult is going to be able to help her access all the help she requires.
She can't solve this by herself, and you can't solve it for her. You shouldn't have to bear this burden and this anxiety. You deserve the comfort of knowing that professionals and adults are looking out for her and supporting her as well, and she deserves that help. You have to be her girlfriend, not her therapist. So tell an adult.
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