Question Posted Saturday January 11 2014, 12:31 pm
I'm a 13 year old girl in 8th grade. And I really like this guy but, what are some signs that I'm actually in LOVE with him and that its not just a crush? What questions can I ask myself to tell if it is a crush or love. I have known this guy since school started in August but I didn't really start liking him till the beginning of October. I think about him a lot...
It takes time to love someone. Are you dating him? If so, then it definitely can grow into love in time. You get to know them more, you learn the good and the bad about him.
It starts with liking them then when it becomes unconditional, then it becomes love.
Here's some questions I found online.
Do you feel attraction towards him or a deep, romantic attachment?
How is your state of mind? Like would be developing whatever it is that's budding between you the two of you and love is when moods may change but the care is unconditional.
On the phone liking them would be the whole "No you hang up first" and love is when there is not much time on the phone because the majority of the interaction is done in person because it's not common to fall in love over text messages and phone calls.
Your ideal situation for liking them would be that the feelings are being reciprocated, meaning that you are just happy that he likes you back and love would be wanting to grow old with them.
Like would see them as potential and love is seeing them as a life companion.
So anyways, when you're in love you'll know. Since you're guessing it, you're not in love yet. Take your time with him and once you guys get to a deeper level in your relationship, you'll know when you're in love. [ lightoftruth's advice column | Ask lightoftruth A Question ]
Brookenicolet answered Saturday January 11 2014, 10:24 pm: what you're going through is a crush. You may think you're in love with this person, but in reality, you're in love with the IDEA of him. Many people go through this so you're definitely not the only one. Being in love is when two people are with eachother. To be in love, the other person has to be with you. And anyways, you're only in 8th grade, it's not like you're gonna find the love of your life now. But you're just feeling a crush right now :) [ Brookenicolet's advice column | Ask Brookenicolet A Question ]
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