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What should I do?
this boy who ive been flirting with for so long asked me on a date, i didn't want to but he insisted so i agreed but i brought my friend with me. he got upset and never contacted me since then. but weve been talking for years and were million miles apart. we dont live in the same country. when he started to ignore me i didnt care but now that ive read all our old conversations i realize that i love him. what should i do?
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I am confused. First you flirt with him to get his attention and then didn't want to go on a date and at the end y.ou say you love him. Also, how could he ask you to go on a date if you both live in different countries. If somebody moved, you didnt say. Or to travel to another country just to go out on one date seems a bit extreme to me, but to each their own.
He could be thinking you were sending him mixed messages and be upset thinking you were just playing a game and leading him on.
If this took place where you live and he made a move here thinking there was a good chance of a future with you, he could be upset about that too. You really need to provide more info so I know if you asked if your friend could come along. Was it a date in a public place where you would be fairly safe for a first time meeting?
What you do is entirely up to you really. You need to go with your gut feeling. One thing I will say is that using the computer as a tool to find someone and first get to talking and liking each other so far is a good thing. But the computer is not real life, it is an illusion. So it is important when meeting someone on line to take it to the real world as soon as possible, the sooner the better like in a couple weeks if you are chatting daily. What a person presents themselves as over the internet, or what you dream up and imagine to fill in the spaces, will never be exactly the same thing when he stands before you. I always called the shots and told the guy which busy coffee shop we would be meeting at. If I liked him enough there, another date in public like at a restaurant before meeting alone at each others place. I am a pretty good judge of character hon, but even I was fooled by several guys that seemed promised on the net and then on the phone, but once we met, I was either shocked, disappointed, or he was totally different than what i got from the internet. There were some nasty guys too that I was glad to have met at a public place. Your subconscious mind is where all your emotions and feeling lie. So it is likely attached to the dream of what you think him to be by his words when youely up to you really. You need to go with you read the conversations. What your conscious mind might want and desire is quite different which i gather is the case as you didn't want to go out with him once asked. How could he insist to a point that you relented? If you still didnt want to, then why? If he can so easily convince you or manipulate you to do something you don't want to do, that is also a warning sign. He may not be all sweet and roses and you may need to develop a backbone cus the women without one are taken advantage of.
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