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What should I do?
My ex boyfriend and I have broken up for 3 months so far. I am trying to get him back and lately ive been trying to be just casual with him but i always end up slipping and i start talking about why we should e together again. This topic always annoys him and our last argument he told me that he has many problems going on like family the worry of starting college next year and fake friends. He sai that im not helping becaus ei keep adding on to the shit he has to endure everyday by talking about our old relationship. So he followed up by saying that hes tired of everything and that he does not wan tro be in a relationship to make me happy and live with someone beside him that he has no feelings for. Its weird because two weeks ago when we saw each other he told me he still had feelings for me and then we proceeded doing intimate things together.he also told me that hes been teying to forget about us and move on but because i keep texting him to be casual it made it harder for him to move on. And so i have no idea what to do to pull hik back entirely. Ive heard methods like te no contact method. Then theres the "just be a frend" method that ive been failing at i guess. And i dnt know what to do please help because i really want him back. I guess it does sound selfish but i know somewhere in him he still has feelings for me. Weve been together for even more than a year already. He cant just leave that fast right? What should i do? So far ive turned off my imessage so i wont get any message from him although i doubt i would.
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I think I just answered your question that you posted earlier.
Well I'll just repeat what I said. Pretty much, you can't make him want to be with you.
Me and my boyfriend were together for over 2 years. Believe me, they can leave that fast. Feelings change over time and the things he told me was that he has a lot going on with school and his feelings have changed and things like that.
I would try to talk to him all the time and even beg him to take me back. That just pushed him away even more. So don't keep doing that. Like you, I even became intimate with him, he did tell me he has feelings but he's just not sure anymore.
So I do believe he might have feelings for you still but you're handling it the wrong way. It's just making him want you less and less. If he did get back together with you out of pity for you, you both just won't be happy.
So my advice to you would be to just stop. It's not right for you to keep doing this to him even though it really hurts to not be with him. We've all been there but he's seriously just confused about what he wants. Let him figure things out. Take care of yourself right now. Do things to show him that you're worth it. Go out with your friends, take up a new hobby, just enjoy yourself. You shouldn't keep talking to him because you'll end up bringing up getting back together and you'll get in a fight so just give it time. If he wants you, he wants you. If he doesn't, he doesn't.
I also posted this on your question.
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It really helped me and made me feel better when I went through a break up. Reading other peoples stories really helped me.
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