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No contact part 2
So like earlier you answered a question of mine about how the no contact method works. But the problem is like for three months i've been in contact with him trying o play it casual but i always end up bringing up arguments about our relationship an why we should start again. And he told me that hes trying to move on and forget about us but me texting evveryday makes it harder for him. He even told me at the end of our most recent fight that he has a lot of family friends and school problems currently sd that hes tired of wverything to the point that he has no feelings for me. So im wondering should i initiate the no contact period still? Or well what should i do?! Because i honestly want to get back with him.
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Definitely in this case no contact rule should apply.
He's said he doesn't have any feelings for you in the current situation-you contacting him a lot.
So the only other logical method to deploy is the no contact rule. Give him space.
To be honest it sounds like its not you why the relationship ended, its his situation. Perhaps he doesn't want the commitment of the relationship given all these things are going on at the moment in his life?
I'm not saying be easy, I'm saying give him what he wants-space.
I know you want to get back with him but it honestly takes patience. I know it goes against your instincts but pestering him everyday will only make him go cold for you.
What do we know? We know what you're doing now is turning him off. So something along the line has to change. It could be contact, or it could be to offer him support with his school problems as a friend not anything more?
I feel for you, because it seems like you care about someone who at the moment has lost interest. But put yourself in his shoes. You see, how would you feel if someone just wouldn't get off your case despite you explaining in the best way possible you want them to go away? You'd dislike them even more.
Give him what he wants. Time is a great healer, and absence really does make the heart fonder. You can't dedicate yourself to getting back with this guy so much. Life's just too short. Ignore him for now, Have fun with friends and when he comes calling (and he will out of curiosity) you're in the driving seat as to whether you want to get back with him or not.
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