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im scared that he might break up with me
me and my boyfriend have been together gor about 4 month and im scared that he might break up with me because we dont talk like that and we cant see each other like that because my mom deosnt trust me. what should i do?
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Is it really an issue of trust or is it that the parents set a rule about when you can date and you're not old enough to go out on official dates yet. You didn't mention your age.
If hanging at school only doesnt feel like enough time spent together, the only other chance is to see if you can have him over as a friend when the parents are home to supervise. If you haven't dated before, this is a good way for starting out so the parents can learn to be comfortable with the boy.
You can try asking if you can invite a friend over who is a male friend from school. I would avoid using the term boyfriend with the parents for now, as that immediately conjures up images of dating which they may deem you too young for.
Then start out with hanging out in the family room or living room so the parents aren't worrying about the two of you alone in your bedroom. After a few times, check if it's okay if he hangs out with you in your room, maybe with the door open.
I know it may not be what you had in mind for dating a boyfriend but you have to start somewhere. I have talked with teen girls whose boyfriends hung out at their place all the time and the parents got to really liking him and trusting him. And they were able to have unsupervised dates sooner because the parents knew the boy would treat the daughter right.
If your parents were game for it, the only problem might be if this was too scary for the guy. One of my daughters had a guy interested in her late in 6th grade. I told her to invite him to hang at our house. It was too scary for him, he chickened out.
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