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what to do when you dont get a right partner
i am an indian .i m 39+but look like 10 to 12 yers younger than my age.i am divorcee and have a son who is 10 years old .i want to get married with somebody whom i like appeanancewise..should be smart well placed and settled ...even with a kid also but he should be good looking..i have registered myself in few matrimonies also but not geeting a suitable match ...i am so frustated and worried with every passing day as i am geeting older with this day...seek help suggest me how to search or what to do..because those who like me they are 45 +..not maintained males..and whom i like they just because of my age nd a child dont consider me.please help
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I am guessing that your matrimony sites are the equivalent of the American dating places on the computer where you put a picture of yourself and write about yourself. If so, I have used dating sites and found my 2nd husband on there. He had a teen daughter still living with him. He worried no female would consider dating him.
It takes the right person and it is not easy. I got many men answering my ad who were not suitable for me either.
So in my ad I had a list of what I was looking for in a guy and was careful to word everything in a positive way rather than negative. For example instead of saying "please be slim, not overweight", I put down "want a man who is height and weight appropriate, (thats a way of saying his weight shouldn't be more than what is healthy for his height and age. Another good word to use is "athletic" because a person who is athletic takes care of their body with exercise and makes sure to eat healthy. You will need to think of beside his looks and wealth and social standing, what are the personality traits you seek. I do not smoke so I put down that I have tried but just can't be with someone who is a smoker. I am very spiritual, very sexual person so I wrote that I was looking for someone who believed much like me or had an open minded view of beliefs. His morals, his views on life, his hopes and dreams and hobbies and much more are important to me. If he was to be the average american man who is crazy about any kind of sports, and all his life revolves around being a sports fan, then it would not go well with me. Because we would never be doing anything together. A husband should be your best friend, and as such should have some things in common with you, the same passions about certain things.
If you would like me to look over and critique a sample of what you have written, perhaps I can help but without knowing how this system is set up in India, it is hard for me to know what to suggest. If you would like me to help more, give me some idea of what you what written in this matrimonial place and write to my column, not where you post a comment on this answer of mine. I cannot answer you there even though I can see your comment. It has to be by your going to my column Dragonflymagic and then choosing the button to post a question.
Best wishes to you.
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