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Am I not enough?
My boyfriend and I are a relatively happy couple, we have been together 2 years and live together with a child from his previous relationship. When we first started dating he always acted to raunchy and had cravings towards me. I remember when I could make him drip beads of sweat. I know that after a while the lust level does go down. But I feel as if we still have a lot of sex. He never really talks about it with me or tells me he is craving it anymore. This morning he told me he feels his sex drive isn't really there anymore and it made me feel like I am not enough or attractive enough to keep him excited. We do a lot of fun kinky things to mix it up and keep it interesting but I feel sometimes that he might now be satisfied with just me. Is there any special way to rekindle some magic and lust? Or boost his sex drive? I feel so inadequate but I love him dearly..
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You need to stop making this all about you.
Did he tell you why he felt his sex drive was lower? There are lots of possible reasons, including stress and illness.
Did he tell you he's unhappy with the situation? Or did he let you know his sex drive was lower to explain to you that he was quite content with your sex life, even tho you were having less sex than before.
Are YOU unhappy with the situation? Do you want to be having more sex, or do you just feel like he 'must' want more and are worried about pleasing him?
You jumping to the conclusion that 'you aren't enough for him' is destructive and frankly, insulting to him! You owe it to him to have a lot more honest talking about what you both want before you panic, and start scheming and stressing.
TALK TO HIM FIRST. Honestly, and share your own preferences as well. Sex is not all about what the girl can do for the guy. It's part of the bond you share. So talk it out before you start spinning your wheels trying to 'solve' problems you assume are there.
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