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I might be moving and I dont wan to
I have attention deficit hyperactive disorder and Bipolar depression and anxiety disorder and I have some learning disorders but my cousin said if I wanted to stay if my mom decided to move and if it was okay with my mom that I could live her
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Oh Good Lord, thats it? I have taken care of people found to be schizophrenic and those who are born to druggie parents who are mentally challenged. I understand you have some issues where you might lose it before someone without your challenges, lets say a cell phone bill with error in charges and people on the help line are not helpful. It's in those odd situations that crop up that its helpful to have someone who would be willing to handle issues like that which you find too challenging or upsetting for you. If you have trouble remembering to take any medication, its good to have another person willing to step in. With government cuts in budgets, caregiving is not available in large amounts, only extremely physical disabled people seem to still have caregivers or nursing care on hand 24 hrs a day. Its hard to even find caregivers for a couple hours a day, more like one day a week. So if you have a cousin, make sure she is willing to help you with any challenging issues that crop up, not just allow you to live with her. And then if any extra help is needed, I am sure that through the church or even dad you could get the odd times covered when you need someone to step in...lets say a call list of people who dont work and are available to call and come over at a time you are in crisis and your cousin is at school or at work.
if I remember right, you are 24, and so should be able to be out on your own, away from parents. I wouldn't leave the decision totally up to Mom, because some parents have trouble letting go of children who don't have any issues or disabilities let alone those who do. Children will always be a mothers children no matter how old they get. A parent needs to learn when to go from the mothering stage to the mentor stage. Its something all parents need to do. She may not in her mind be ready to give you up, afraid you can't handle it. You might have dad and cousin and any of dads side of family try to talk to her and get her to see that coddling you isn't in your best interest. I believe you folks should give it a full years try, whether mom moves or not. You should be out from under moms wing. If after a year you feel like its not working out, then, catch a greyhound bus ride out to where ever mom is and start living with her again.
My husband and I just helped an older mom get her 28 yr old son out on his own. His problem was being legally blind. And gets seizures often. She took care of everything for him even though he lived in duplex next door. She had no life of her own as he barged in at all hours of day or night when he was emotionally upset or hungry. She still shopped and cooked for him and did other stuff for him. Well, a half brother was willing to look after him, found him an apt he could afford on his own and we helped her transition with the emotional support because it was hard for her to let go. Its been about 6 months and she is finally happy and not worried at all about him.
Hope all works out well for you dear. You need to be rooming with someone near your age and if a cousin is willing, go for it.
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