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How many times should it hurt after you have sex the first time?
When u have sex the first time it hurts but should it the second and thrid time
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Sex should not hurt the first time, or the next time if the guy takes his time and goes slowly and you use lubrication. The hymen is a little extra skin that is tight but can be stretched and covers just a sliver of the vaginal opening usually on one side or a little on both. I have only recently had it brought to my attention that there is such a thing as the strip of hymen running straight down the middle creating two smaller openings.This is called a septate hymen and you can look this up on line with photos. Get a mirror and check if this is the case for you. This would be very painful but likely you would never have been able to fit a tampon in let alone vibrators and such. If the pain is not due to either of the first two reasons, perhaps the guy is longer than the amount of room you have when fully aroused or he never takes the time to get you fully aroused and give you several orgasms before he gets inside. The uterus and cervix will pull back giving more room when aroused but if he is still longer than the amount of room you have, no matter how careful, hitting the cervix or to the sides of it can be painful. I once had a guy too long for me and he hit nerves on either side of cervix causing charlie horse like painful cramps down my legs. That ended that relationship.
Let your partner know you are having pain and ask him to look and see if he can spot a septate hymen, it is very rare so thats likely not the case. Ask him to work on you getting you aroused first, most fingering doesnt do anything if he doesnt know really what he's looking for in clitoral or g spot stimulation and it can take as long as 15 20- min. average for women to get to the point of being aroused enough to have some orgasms first. THIS does not mean like a man she is done for rest of the evening onces she s had an orgasm, this is only the start. Once a lady is turned on, it takes a long long time before she is done. So have a talk with him. Truly work on all possible issues to make it a pleasant experience for you. If you still have troubles, you may want to talk to your dr. which is necessary if it is a septate hymen.
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