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thanks for answering my question I just got a few others
1. I made some joking comments to her saying things like "oh now mom will be getting ordered around by people" , also compared prison food to school lunches and her having to dress and shower in front of other inmates and a guard similar to the gym locker room. My mom is not asking for any kind of pity party and it is clear she does not mind being self depreciating about this. I think this has helped make the situation more comfortable for everyone, but some might say we are making "light" of a serious thing.
2. I was wondering if I should visit her. While I have no problem with her I wonder if I should go into a jail. My dad said she would appreciate a visit and it could be "interesting and educational". Do you think so?
3. What is meant exactly by "And I think it's great that you're able to get to know your mom on a more personal level now...usually that comes much later in life."
thanks
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Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
1. What else can really be done but to make light of it? It sounds like your mom knows she made some mistakes, she's not likely to do so again. If her sentence were years in jail or the crime more serious, that would change things. But 6 months for financial stuff isn't too bad ... Heck, there are peace activists who have gotten worse. As long as your mom is okay with joking around, I think it's fine.
2. I think you should visit her. I'm sure both of you will miss each other as the months go on, I don't think there's any harm in it. I was in a jail at a very young age and it didn't leave any serious impressions. Now, if it were a max security prison it would be a different story. But I actually did learn a lot from the officers at the jail.
3. You said before that it feels like you can talk to your mom much more easily now. I think that's totally natural...probably because you can see the human side of her -- the side that's not 'mom' or 'wife' but a person who sometimes makes mistakes. Usually people only start getting this view of their parents in their 20s and 30s, but I think you starting to see that now can only help strengthen your bond.
So accept however you feel about this, and if your feelings ever change, accept those too. Tell your parents how you're feeling. The only way things turn out "wrong" here is if you hide how you're feeling. That could come back to bite you later.
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