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I am a pest and I cannot stop being a pest.
I have been a pest, an annoyance and a bother since I can remember. I enjoy bothering people by annoying, twisting their words, get under their skins, and disregard their own feelings. I am not sure why I enjoy this and I do not know if I will ever change, but it is problem. Even if I do change,I am not sure what I should become.
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You have asked a good question. One unfortunately that I or other advisors may not be able to answer properly. So rather than try to give you some uneducated reasons for why you do so, my advice is that you seek out a qualified psychologist to help you explore why you do so.
With the help of a qualified psychologist you can find the answer to your question. Once the answer is found you can then find ways to overcome this habit. A habit which I would go as far to say that you are finding annoying as well as those you have been bothering.
Seeking out a psychologist does not mean you're in need of mental help or you have a mental illness. Quite the contrary. A psychologist is someone you can speak with in total confidentiality, sort of a new best friend you can trust to share your deepest secrets with knowing they go no further. A psychologist is someone who can help you explore the why of something rather than just tell you that this is just how you are; because they do not know the why.
This is not just the way you are. The one thing I am aware of that this type of behavior is a form of defense mechanism you have developed to ward off being hurt. Now the question becomes what has caused you to develop this type of defense mechanism. This is what I or others here cannot help with as it requires one on one conversations. This is where therapy sessions with a psychologists come in.
I believe you will be surprised to find out just what caused you to put up just such a defense mechanism. It will be something that happened long ago and the mechanism has become second nature to you. You can change once you discover the why. This is where a psychologist comes in.
You may have to go through one or more psychologist before you find one you are totally comfortable with. This is fine; for as I said above. In order for therapy like this to be successful you have to be totally comfortable with the therapist to the point you will tell him or her your deepest secrets.
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