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Thank you. I guess I could separate my paragraphs and make a little title for what that paragraphs talks about.
Family
My grandparents are awesome! They would do anything to make me happy. My grandparents took care of me when my mom couldn't. My mom wasn't always the loving mommy. She smokes, and has did cocaine. She's an alcoholic; which is why I basically lived with my grandparents. My mom would always bring guys home from the bar. And she has one currently. And she gives her boyfriend more attention then her own daughter (me). Now I do have an older brother. He's 21 now. My mom did the same things with him. So I'm kinda only own now since he moved out. My brother would always stick up for me and protect me from violence when he, my mother, and her boyfriends fought. Yes, the fights involved punching, slapping, etc. I've wittnist a couple. My father, divorced my mom when I was born. I still see him. In fact, I'm closer to him then my mom. I go over there every other weekend. I tell him my problems, and helps me a lot. He gave me the talk about boys, an it actually ment something to me because my mother has never done that. Even if I try to tell her about the guy I like she won't listen.
My love life
I always had trouble with love. Every time i tell a guy i like him, i get rejected. The guy I like is the one I've been interested in since 6th grade. I've told him I liked him in 8th grade. And I still do (we are in 10th grade now). I'm sure he knows I still like him. But when I told him I liked him, he didn't do anything about it.
From 8th grade to the beginning of 10th grade we have talked everyday nonstop. I'm not even exaggerating. We could call each other, text each other, you name it! But all of a sudden, that stopped. I actually thought I had a chance with him. People will see us walking in the halls & ask if we're dating because we look cute!! Sorry that sounded selfish
He still talks to me but not a lot. But when he does, he doesn't show emotion or is really boring. I actually stop texting him because I feel annoying! I'm pretty sure he is interested in other girls, so I'm trying to stay out of the way.
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I can't help you very much with your love life other than to say; don't put too much stock into teenage boys. Teenage boys are very strange, most have only one interest. Based on what you have written about your home life if any of the boys at school know of your mom and what she is like then she and not you may most likely be the one they are rejecting.
As to how to help yourself with your home life. The best thing I can see from what you have written is to try and move back to your grandparents.
You do not say whether any of the violence at home is directed at you. If mom or any of her boyfriends hit you. In any case based on what you have written you home environment is not a proper environment to raise a child in, The smoking is not the problem, that is a legal substance. What is or are the problems are the fact that mom is an alcoholic, that she has and may still be doing cocaine and the revolving door of boyfriends she brings home.
What can be done about this or needs to be done about this is. Someone need to contact Child Protective Services(CPS). That person should be an adult although being in the 10th grade you could call CPS. The best person to call would be one of your grand parents. If they are unwilling to call then speak to a trusted teacher or your school principal and tell them just what you wrote to me about life at home. They are required by law to pass this information on to CPS.
Child Protective Services will be required to check on your home life. If they agree with me that your home life is not in your best interest. They will contact your dad, your grandparents and then your older brother to place you in their guardianship to live with one of them. To do this you are made a temporary ward of the state and whichever one of your relatives agrees to be your guardian and have custody of you until you're 18. They will also receive a subsistence allowance from the state for doing so.
This is the proper way to get the attention you need to get out of a bad situation. If one of moms boyfriends ever abuses you and this does not mean sexual abuse only, hitting, punching, throwing you around is also abuse. Pick up a phone and call 911. The police are there to protect you. You do not need anyone's permission to call the police of the fire department if you are hurt.
Hurting yourself was and is the wrong answer and would get you the wrong help. You need the help of adults who can contact the right people to help you or you yourself call the right people. Having another adult call CPS is the best way to go about this. Ask your dad, grandparents, brother or a teacher for help with this.
I will always be here if you need me.
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