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I want to have sex
I'm 21/f, and I should be having sex. My body is ready for it and I am, too. I walk around all the time wet and its fucking annoying. I find myself fantasizing at work about everyone there and its distracting. I masturbate on a regular basis but thats not even close to cutting it anymore. I need to feel a man. The thing is, I live with one. If I were going to have sex with anyone, I'd want it to be him. We have before, plenty of times. But lately I'm not feeling it from his side. Its been over 2 months since the last time we did. He doesn't make any moves to let me know he wants to, so Idk if he still does! We're both single. He's a little older than I am and he works a lot more hours than I do. Thats another issue; I never know when he's too tired to do anything. I get nervous when I realize I have to be the initiator. I need advice on how to non-romantically seduce a man. Or how I can tell that he even still finds me appealing in that sense. Its not even about wanting to be loved anymore, I feel deprived and hysterical. :( And don't any of you worry, I'm on the pill and he and I always use a condom. We're good on that. I'm just horny!!!!
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In away I sort of agree with Razhie. You're 21 years old and entitled to a sex life. Your living with a man you've had sex with in the past. I may be 45 years older than you but I am still quite liberal in my views on sex. In todays world there is no reason why you can't just go up to him and jump his bones literally.
If you two sleep in the same bed just grab hold of the object you desire. Should it respond and as it should, go for it. If his response is not as you would expect then you two have a problem and a conversation between you is need. This leads to part two of my advices.
In every relationship, which includes ones sexual relationships, communication is key to a successful relationship. This is extremely important in a sexual relationship.
Generally when I'm giving this advice it is because the relationship may be all sex and nothing of a higher plane. This leads to the eventuality of waking up one day and finding out you have nothing in common and the novelty of great sex is wearing off.
You have the opposite problem not enough sex. so he is a few years older than you. This does not mean he has given up on sex. Something is wrong and you need to find out what it is. This requires a conversation, one that you may have to initiate.
You say he is working hard and long. It is very possible the long hours has effected him in a way that is embarrassing to him. He may feel or be suffering with erectile dysfunction. Work related stress will do that to a man.
You need to talk to him. Encourage him to see his doctor for a complete physical. There is nothing he can say to his doctor that his doctor hasn't heard before. so encourage him to be totally truthful and open with his doctor.
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Oh for fucks sake ASK HIM!
"Do you want to have sex?"
It's not rocket science.
You are working yourself up into a completely irrational state. Seriously, stop it. It isn't difficult for a 21 year old woman who wants sex, to suck up her pride and ask a guy she has slept with previously if he wants to fuck again.
This barely qualifies as a problem. You want sex. You want sex with him. He's right there, and you know he's been game in the past. The solution is literally staring you in the face.
Don't worry about seducing him, just get a minute of his full attention and ask him if he wants to have sex again, right then, or ever.
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