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I Feel Like a Terrible Person. :(
First of all, I already feel awful about what I did and don't want to be judged.
So, I'm a young teenage girl who likes girls, and I have a girlfriend. I love her more than ANYTHING in the world, and we care for each other deeply. By the way, it's a long distance relationship.
I will admit that I'm a very stupid person. Meaning I do stupid things sometimes on the internet. I will also say that I get horny very easily, and my girlfriend does not.
I met another lesbian girl on a website (a lot of my friends on the internet are lesbians) and she gave me her phone number. At first, we just texted each other about normal stuff.
I would like to mention that I would never be attracted to this girl. She's a bit pushy and rude, and I don't like her . . . except maybe as a friend.
Anyway, she asked me if I would call her on the phone. I don't like calling people on the phone, but I said yes anyway. Before we called, she asked me if I wanted to have a little fun. I asked her what she meant by that, and she said she wanted to masturbate over the phone.
I should also mention that I love masturbating. It's one of my favorite things to do. But I was a little reluctant to say yes to that girl because I didn't want to be a cheater. So I told the other girl that I have a girlfriend and didn't want to cheat on her, but then she said it wasn't cheating and that we could just be friends with benefits. So I said yes.
We masturbated over the phone a couple times. But I don't want to do it anymore because it makes me feel like I'm cheating on my girlfriend, even though the other girl said it wasn't cheating. I would stop, but I don't want to hurt the other girl's feelings, because I know she likes masturbating over the phone. I guess I liked it too because I love to masturbate, but I just feel so bad. . . .
Now I feel terrible about everything. If you have any advice, I would deeply appreciate it. Thank you! And sorry if this question didn't make any sense.
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Friends with benefits is cheating. Masturbating on the phone with another girl is cheating.
So now that we have that straight, you should tell your girlfriend.
She will be hurt. Don't expect her to just take it and say, "Ok, you're forgiven." But don't put any of the blame on her and don't make excuses. You don't want to be like, "I couldn't help myself because I love masturbating." or "You don't get horny very often and I really was." It just makes it look like you would do it again.
Explain what you did, tell them you were sorry and that it'll never happen again. Tell her everything she wants to know. So in the future if it's brought up, she'll know everything and won't be so hurt about it again.
She might need time, I don't know her so I'm not sure to how she would react. If she does, don't beg, don't pressure her. Just be prepared for the worst.
Also, stop talking to this other girl. She's bad news and doesn't care to respect your boundaries of being in a relationship. You don't have to be mean. Just tell her that you have a girlfriend and she's the only one you want to do that with. Then don't talk to her anymore.
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Okay I know what it's like to be a lez,and this is my advice to you. one, long distance relationships are tough. two, techichally no matter what the girl says, masturbating over the phone with a girl other than your girlfriend is still cheating. Plus it's like having sex with other girl. Think about it.
I highly recommend confessing this to your girlfriend. She deserves to know and if you really do care about her, tell her your concerns about always being in the mood when she's not. Maybe come up with a comprimise that makes you both happy so you don't have to go to another source for your sexual release.
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