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Confusing Crush :(
Ok, So i'm a freshman in high school, and i met this guy about three-four weeks ago (before school started) at a school club/group we are both in. He is a freshman like me and AMAZING!! I didn't think we would end up friends but we did and i realized a few days ago i like him. (last week was our first week of school)and we had a football game we performed at. During the game he asked if I had facebook, i said yes and he gave me his info so i could send him a friend request. Later, when we where all packing up he asked for my number. After he left (he left way before me) he sent me a text. We talked for a while, and he told me he was sort of dating a girl in the band (all 3 of us are in band) i asked sort of? and he said they decided to play it low and he doesn't know where they stand. I felt heart broken. We still talked (I mean we are friends after all, its innocent) and he (and the girl) hangout with me and other band freshman at lunch and they barely talk to each other and he mostly talks to me and another guy from band and my best friend who is not in band. Then yesterday i was talking to him and we got onto the conversation on "How to tie someone up" then we talked about my brother for a little bit and he randomly goes
"Back onto our conversation from earlier. If you had someone tied up you really liked, Would you kiss them?" and i told him that was really random but it would depend. He said he probably would. WE talked a lot and he told me a lot about himself and I him. WE have A LOT in common, it's amazing. He's a great friend. Also (he and my best guy friend have their 5th period class right next door to mine) so they wait for me (i was blushing really hard when i saw him and my BGF waiting for me outside), and i was lost on the second day of school and he showed me to my class. and in our band class together I was switching through my instruments cause i was confused on my first day of High school band (I play F horn and flute and I'm in color guard) then i asked if i could just go outside and practice guard with other guardies in the class and my B.D said sure. I walked past him and he told me i needed to stop moving in a teasing way and i said "It's not my fault I'm in Color guard!"
SO, please don't fill your answers with "He has a Girlfriend, leave him alone" and all that. I know, and I will move on. But i was just wondering, does it sound like he is starting to or does like me?? I just want to know, thanks :) I just really want to know
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Ok to first answer your question, it does sound like he's into you. Which I wouldn't consider a good thing since he has a girlfriend. Even if he doesn't know where he stands with her, it's still disrespectful to be flirting with you.
My advice to you would be to not talk to him as much. Friends have boundaries when dating. You obviously don't text your friends for 8 hours, that's what you do when you like someone.
You really like him, but you don't want to be the other girl he's talking to when he's also talking to another girl that's his girlfriend. And she's the one that he's actually dating.
So if you want to continue being friends with him, don't let the flirting continue. If he gets out of the relationship, feel free. But keep it in the friend boundaries because it's disrespectful of him to do that to his girlfriend and in the end, it could also hurt you.
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okay, i understand the position you are in and you honestly cannot help who you like! The best advice i can give you is that once a cheater... always a cheater. If he is cheating with you while he's with someone else then he will cheat ON YOU! maybe he has no idea you are taking it this way but you really need to straight up tell him. It isnt fair not only to you not to know but also him and his girlfriend. IF you really want him then pursue it. But put yourself in the girls position for a minute.... he would respect you more for being the bigger person.
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He is absolutely flirting with you - while he's dating someone else. Which is kinda sucky, disrespectful behaviour.
Usually when someone obviously and repeatedly flirts with you, it means they like you.
Honestly, being clearly liked by a guy who has a girlfriend isn't really a compliment. It's a burden and an accusation. It's a guy who willing to cast you as the 'other woman'.
Honestly, back the fuck off entirely until he's single. If you want to be really honest, and make the best step you can towards a respectful friendship with this guy, tell him that you both know you are both flirting, and you are 100% ending that until he tells you that he's available.
Then BE HIS FRIEND, and friends don't text for 8 hours. Shut that shit down. You turn yourself into someone's friend by acting like their friend, and have the kinds of boundaries you'd have with a guy you didn't like. If you keep treating him like something more, you risk it turning into something more before he is single, and that is bad news for everyone.
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