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boyfriend is not interested in physical contact
my boyfriend and me were in the same school 2 years ago. after i shifted we were still friends until he proposed and we were in a long distance relationship. i am 16 and he is 17. he is very supportive and nice . we had several ups and downs but he wrapped it back together...it took a long time but he did. i love him very much and as a girl i want to have some physical relationship with him i.e. i want to talk to him about it and maybe chat . once i did so, he reacted very awkwardly and stated that he DOES NOT LIKE these things. i was hurt and he soon made up for it and said he liked it and we did it a few times on net. but now we are back to the same condition. he does not fly kiss, does not touch, does not talk about anything physical. he is not naughty and whenever i say i like it and u do not...he quickly changes the subject.he has never ever said that i am wrong about him. i am really going mad and i am extremely hurt. i love him so much and he loves me too. i know he has not had any past experience to behave like this. i have tried talking to him but he refuses to talk upon this subject. what is wrong with me?..and him?...why would a boy who loves a girl NOT WANT TO BE PHYSICAL OR TALK ABOUT BEING PHYSICAL ...WHEN THEY MISS EACH OTHER AND ARE SO FAR APART?..plz help...what can i do to bring this change in him?
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Sometimes, some men feel uncomfortable about it because of their size. They're afraid that you're going to ask and if they tell you the size, you might not be satisfied with it. That could be one reason.
Needless to say, my husband is not that physical as well, whilst I am. I told him that this is not working for me because I am physically active. He express his love with words, while I express with love making. So, to make it right, I told him, every week, we make love 2 times. He agreed to it and we're still working on it.
Sometimes, it gets to me too because when a man acts like that, it could make a woman feel unattractive. But work something out with him. He can't run from it all the time. Sex is a part of life.
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He may not be willing to think about whats going on with himself or even admit that he is not a male with the normal sexual desires for either gender, male or female.
It is possible for him to value your friendship and even have a very close relationship such as you might have with a best friend who is female. But that may be as far as it will ever go with him.
If he is not gay, It may be that he is asexual, not having desire towards either gender. Here's an article on it.
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The article shows that there is much debate going on about this and not much has been studied or is able to be explained. So how does someone who feels like this react? Likely the way he does, but not wanting to speak on the subject of kissing, intimate touch, sexuality, because he knows he is different and is scared. There are many who have come to terms with it. Look up on the web yourself searching for
"no interest in either gender"
and you'll find many young people who wrote in that they have no interest in either sex and actually feel happy, not like they are missing out on anything. Why we dont hear about it is cus its not publisized much but it is a very real condition or gender orientation whatever way you want to look at it. It hasn't been defined yet.
So while this guy may be able to be a life long close friend, he would not make a lover and a possible father in the future for your kids.
There is nothing any person, doctors included can do to change him.
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