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what should i do?*
I'm inlove with my bestfriend... He's a great person!* and I'm going trough a dufficult time right now... And he's allways there!! I really like him. So I told him... And he just said let's stay friends. But his friends say he likes me to..* what should I do? I can't go on like this anay more!! ThxX... 14/F
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hay ask him to just go on one date and don't take no for an answer, after that its a mystery
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Hon, this is one of those examples of how when a guy says one thing and a girls says the same time, they may not mean the same thing. Don't torture yourself with wondering what he meant by it. If you can stay relaxed, not jump to conclusions with him, and ask him what he meant without interrogating him you should get some answers that will hopefully make you feel better. If his friends say he still likes you, then likely that is true. Are you saying you want to make a move from friendship to a romantic relationship with him that includes kissing and holding hands- - because of how you feel? Besides the girl in their life, men will have other things that are top priority in their life, as long as the female is one of the top 3 or 4. He may be very focused on school and his studies and not want to be distracted by the complications of romantic relationships. A job or obligations to family also rate high on a males list. Just because you dont get 100% of his attention doesnt mean you are not important to him. At your ages, it is perfectly fine to go at a slower pace.
Ifthe situation is that you are battling bouts of feeling horny, the best thing to do at this point in time is take care of that with masturbation.
So just ask him what he meant by staying friends.And give some examples of things you have been thinking about. like: 'Does it mean you only see me as friend material and not romance and dating matterial. Or is it that you do like me too as much as I like you but you would rather focus on school and studies, or do you have a want to wait until we are older to date? Or, do your parents have a dating age limit that you want to honor?
If you've been close enough to be best friends, it shouldn't be too hard to ask him for clarifications.
I'd be curious to hear how he answers. If you think of it, or end up with more questions based on his answers, just write me at my column dear.
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