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Grandma never gives me space
My grandma has never given me my spaces or pravice and i am 17 about to be 18. What should i do?
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It sounds as though your grandma is a little over protective. Perhaps, seeing as you have been with her for fourteen years now she feels a little overwhelmed? If she has taken the role as your mum for the last fourteen years, then I think you need to give her some credit. No matter how bitter she seems (and I know it can be hard) this is the lady who bought you up and this has to be admired.
I know you don't treat her badly, but by understanding the situation from your grandma's view can help you to understand why she behaves this way, which can help you know ho to deal with it.
I think it's time for you to pave your own way in the world. Your grandma is not treating you how you would like. Fine. Go your own way.
Do you have a career goal? Its great if you do, because it will show your grandma that you are an independent young woman, who actually doesn't need to depend on someone anymore.
Your situation is tough, but many others your age are worse off than yourself. Make her proud. Not just doing the dishes and being a good girl. Real proud. Get a job if you haven't already, or begin volunteering.
You may feel like you're not getting the emotional care you need-but you are getting the physical care. Considering you're about to be an adult, I would say you need to accept that you have entered a different phase of your relationship with your grandma. View it as a good thing.
You know, you can't please everyone, but the most important person to please is yourself. Its important to not let yourself get down about your situation. Once you reach 18, things will be different. Because you'll make them be.
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