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Phone sex
Hi there. So there's this guy I've recently hooked up with and since then he's crazy about flirting through texting and having phone sex, but won't come over and ya know have sex. I've given him the option once and he said he wasn't feeling well but insists on sending dirty msgs. He's kinky and all I want is casual sex but he just hasn't come over for sex but will text constant dirty msgs. It's frustrating what's up with that? I do work with him and it has only been a couple days since we first hooked up which we were both drunk but my god all I want is soba sex and that's it! Is he playing games or do u think he really will put his dirty words into action? Laugh out loud! It's been a while for me and its the first time in a year since my ex..
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Hon, first it's important to understand that people have many different fetishes when it comes to sex.
Some are better satisfied with just the imaginined than the real thing. It goes the same for men and women, but since you've asked about him, it is normal for him to want only what he is doing and not want to do anything really in person with you.What he needs is a woman who gets all her sexual satisfaction the same way. You want kinky but with a live man. He's not it. He could do the stretch and do something that doesn't cut it for him, but do it just for you so that you are satisfied too, but there needs to be a talk and agreement about doing some give and take. If he's not willing, don't worry, its not you. Keep looking.
Here's just a taste of what some men are into that totally satisfies their sexual urges and they masturbate to: conversation on line or on a phone while imagining a certain women is way younger than them or way older, imagining themselves having sex with a daughter, having sex with their mother, being breast fed by a nursing woman, watching a women's feet and the shoes she wears, imagining himself as a baby inside the woman, imagining sex with a teacher or anyone else in authority, imagining himself as dominant or submissive with a partner who is the opposite, wanting a female to verbally abuse and belittle him (actually gets some guys off) and all this is being done over the phone or in text online. The same can be acted out in person. But since our minds are our greatest sexual asset, much of our sex and orgasming doesn't require having a physical partner. Think about some dream you had where you're having an orgasm and wake to find you are actually having one. The mind is fairly powerful that way. So, you can continue to do what you're doing with him and know it likely won't improve or keep your options open if you are looking for something like a friend with benefits.
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