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I'm stuck in the hookup zone
So there's this guy I like, I actually don't know if he likes me back BUT I believe that we are in the hookup zone. We've been cuddling in bed while watching movies, and later on, we start making out and hitting it up to 3rd base (cuz I dont wanna lose my vcard yet). I'm starting to really like him but I don't think I'm in the "will date" category, and more of the "hook up" category. How can I get myself out of the hookup zone and possibly escalate to the relationship zone?
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Something sounds out of order. Usually when a gal and guy don't know if the other likes each other, they're at the stage of just staring at each other alot or have just talked a little but not enough to know if they want to start dating. Once they start dating, either at that stage or at the level of steady dating, is when the making out and sex occurs. You are there and don't even know if he likes you? How the heck did you end up with him on or in bed? I am sure you didn't hypnotize him or twist his arm and force him to do so. If he's at that stage with you, either he likes you as a person or he is attracted enough and hoping you turn out to be a sex partner. What you are doing, this seeing the guy and hanging out with him IS dating. You just haven't spent enough time getting to know each other enough. Unless one is in the habit of hooking up with total strangers, (there's a profession for that) I'd have to say your in a dating relationship of sorts. So start talking about anything and everything to get to know him better. Dating is for discovering what you like and don't like about the opposite sex, it's learning about relating to another human being, about all the feelings that come with it, about trust, good communication. So instead of just kissing when together, spend time talking. Tell him you want to learn how guys think. Dont ever assume anything. Ask him, to explain since he is a guy, what a guy is thinking about when he wants to hang out with a girl making out, does he do it because he truly is interested in her as a person, or is he more interested in the experience of making out. Be sure to ask how you can know the difference and what does he personnaly feel. Its that simple. WHen you approach it as asking for his help in understanding guys, you may learn a lot. Not all guys are exactly alike but there are some basics that are the same.
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