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that one guy..
Its difficult. Because he acts like he likes me. He has the body language and the way he talks. But then he has the attitude like a good guy friend. He is in no way gay I'm 100% sure of that. Hes just so wishy washy with me. Because he's acting interested. Then acting friendly. Then he's telling my friend he can't be with me cause we drive eachother insane. And have different morals. Then he's kissing me. I thought maybe he's just been screwed over so much so he's being that guys that doesn't care about anything ie. Feelings,emotions,life, relationships. Hes completely poured everything about his life out to me one night and he's been through a bunch. No family homeless back and forth through friends couches screwed over by girls and everything. I'm not trying to start a relationshipwith him because I'm confused on my feelings for him but I do know that he is very sweet but has a front. Like a touch don't give a shit front. And that pushes people away.
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Sorry to hear he's had bad experiences. Some of us overcome our terrible past and are stronger for it, being overcomers.
Others merely survive the experience but it affects their qualilty of living life fully.
No one can make a Survivor decide to change into an Overcomer. there is help available counseling but more so inner strength from a higher source, angels, god but not many reach out.
Your feelings could be tied to natural maternal desires to nurture. It doesnt have to be a little child, the need to nurture can come out in gardening, or in helping out an adult.
His front is there to keep him from being hurt again but it also keeps out those who may want to love them.
I knew a couple where the female in 50s used to grow up with alcoholic dad who beat the kids all the time. She married to escape home. The man she married was a counselor by trade. He told me he worked his entire life trying to help her get past the damages of the past. She had a wall up around her heart that didnt even allow him to be as close as he could possibly be. Eventually as he neared 60, he wrote that he couldnt take it any longer not being able to be accepted fully in her heart and divorced her. Who knows what will happen for your friend. But it would be good to keep in mind what he said about driving each other crazy. That is a mismatch not only in marriage or long term relationships but in friends. there may be no bad trait in you but it is foreign to how he is. My example: I am a very talkative person and I have seen how some guys did not like that trait in me...they wanted someone more quiet. So I kept looking. I was not about to bottle up everything inside and not talk. When you do those kinds of things, it makes your life energy stagnate and you can run into medical issues over it and diseases in the long run. All from not being yourself, changing to please or match someone. I now have a wonderful husband 2nd marriage, who is as talkative as I am so we dont drive each other crazy! Good luck dear. I wish you all the best.
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