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me and my fiance triep soft swinging and in the end it was a big mess
Me(25 f) and my fiance(27 m) tried soft swinging with the rule no sex with someone else in the end my fiance thought me and the other guy was having sex so he and the girl started having sex and when I saw them having sex I told the guy we can also, after like 2 min I stopped the guy and walked away, me and my fiance had a big fight but we sorted it out after 7 months we both said we were wondering how the evening would turn out if we didn't end it like that, so we agreed to try it again but with my rules but then my fiance talked about it a step further that what we originally talked about then I got angry because I feel why do he want more with another girl I only enjoy the rush of the story the feeling but he actually wants to soft play with another women and it makes me feel that why must I be alive because my guy want to be with another girl again,
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All the ins and outs of relating to just one other person closely as a mate, all that a relationship entails is hard enough work in just one relationship. If two people have not had time to cement and bond their relationship with good communication, trust, forgiving, reassuring, time spent together on your best days and your worst days and still loving each other strongly through it all. That doesnt happen with one partner in months of dating, 2 years of dating or being engaged of even 5 or more year of marriage. A strong relationship,that two people have down successful 24/7 does not happen overnight. At your ages, you aren't old enough to have been in a relationship long enough to be a veteran at having a successful relationship. That is why it is well known by stories of those who have crashed and burned, that swinging or polyamory is not for young couples that haven't perfected their own relationship yet. And swinging is also not recommended for people during their child bearing years because a young couple may be trying to get pregnant, and if soft swing involves just mutual masturbation, there's always that chance of the mans precum being tranfered on a hand to your vagina. I've been in the scene and heard it all. There were even couples in their 40's and 50's who one or the other would get jealous of how someone interacted with their mate. And then that couple all of a sudden no longer wanted anything to do with my husband and I. Swinging is hard. It is not for the faint hearted. It can damage more than it can benefit a couple. I suggest you both drop the idea and wait to see if you're ready in 20 years. I can tell by what you wrote that neither of you have studied enough about swinging cus if you have, you have not been given good information. If your guy wants a female who will be a partner with him in swing clubs, or its a deal breaker, then let him go and find a man who cherishes just you. Swinging is to bring a little spice into your relationship when you're a long married happy stable couple. You arent even married yet.
Good luck dear
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