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what does my dream mean?
Theres this guy, lets name him X. me and x have been friends for about 4 years now and we work together and at some points through these 4 years we have flirted with each other. But the thing is every guy i have dated has been pretty good friends with X. right when i first met him i dated one guy and about 5 months after i broke up with him i date one of X's other friends for about a year. when i broke up with the second guy me and x started talking lots and he was flirting with me a lot..... but i thought that i was just any other girl he was talking to and i didnt think he actually liked me. so i started dating a guy, lets call him Y. me and Y dated for about 3 months and during that X admitted that he really liked me when i was single the last time and he was going to make a move but by the time he got the courage to do it I was with Y and i admitted that at that time i did have feelings and was interested but i thought he wasn't. i broke up with Y after 3 months because he hated anything i did, if it was having guy friends, or going to the bar with my girl friends to have fun and i felt like he was too controlling but in this time that i was single (about 2 weeks) X said nothing to me, i dont know if he was scared or just didnt have interest. 2 weeks later i gave Y another chance to prove that he wouldnt try to control me and i gave him it because i love him. Lately i am happy with Y and he is working on his controllingness but i have been having these dreams about x that i am kissing him and were together and
stuff....... what does this mean?
Pleeeaasseee help me :)
Kaaitlyn
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Your subconscious mind is what makes you dream. Your mind will often bring into a dream what it has been focusing secretly on, not even admitting to your awake mind. All our feelings and emotions come from our subconscious mind so it's like having a second you inside of you. Because your awake conscious mind is choosing to go back to Y, and that decision is the opposite of what your subconscious mind wants.
I will tell you this, people need to learn to listen to their subconscious, its like that inner voice telling you something. Right now you are at odds with yourself, your two minds wanting two totally different guys. I am going to say without going into a lot of detail why, that going with your subcon. idea of a guy to date...especially since you are 21 or older might be a good choice. You've already gone around the circle of friends and if I am guessing right, the only one you havent dated yet is X. You for some reason are not allowing yourself to get together with him. It might sound crazy, but sometimes our conscious mind chooses to date or go with every guy who is wrong for us. Ever hear a girl say, why do I keep running into guys who end up being nothing but jerks? No one is forcing you to, but yourself. Sometimes, our inner self or subcon. senses who the right one is and we automatically avoid him. Why? Beats me but many many females do that. I was one of them in a way. Long story short, your subcon. is trying a last ditch effort to get your attention to get you to go for X instead.
I am concerned that you dont have life experience enough to realize that most people never change in life. A few make minor changes but not enough to the extent that Y needs to make. Y exhibited behavior that shows he is not right for you. My ex was like that at 20 when I married him and worse when I left him after 30 yrs.
People Do Not Change and You Cant Do Anything To Make Them Change! Your heart will get an attachment to every guy you date but your heart does not know what real love is yet. I didnt get to experience real love until into my fifties. Until you experience it, you dont know what you are missing and will think that Y is to die for, he is so wonderful. But the feelings of your heart can make you blind. Its called seeing through Rose colored glasses. If I were you, I would try to learn to start listening to my inner voice, my gut feeling and listen to your subconscious. You made the right decision when you broke up with Y, but the wrong decision when you went back.
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