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I think my dad is doing drugs
My dad has done drugs in the past. He got put on probation 9 years ago and he was off drugs. He became a better person but he still drinks a lot of beer daily. He got caught by my brother 2 years ago and he promised us he would never do it again. Now My mom and I think he's doing drugs. He's spending a lot of money and we don't know what he's doing with it. He stays out all night too. My mom left town for 5 months and it was just me and my dad at home. He would stay gone all night. One night he came home and he asked me for his money that he stored in my room. I dont know how to explain it, but his face was looking different, like a drug addict and his voice was deeper. he stays gone at night for hours. I thought he was doing drugs then because of how he was acting and looking. I think he's trying to hide a drug problem. And he's spending all the money that him and my mom are supposed to be using to get a house. My mom came back after 5 months and he started to take my debit card and my moms and stay out all night withdrawing money from ATM's. He keeps his money in mine and my moms bank account cause we're supposed to get a house. My mom says she can't control him cause he's a grown man and she thinks he's doing drugs too and he's wasting a lot of money. He said he's not doing anything. How do find out what's going on?
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Your mom needs to wake up and see what is coming...if she does nothing about it, not only will you have no money for a house but you will be out on the streets, homeless. It is not smart for her to say nothing to authorities, such as the parole officer. She needs to talk to a lawyer about her situation. Perhaps she can regain control of the bank account that is hers and not allow him access to the money. If he doesnt get the money he can become mean and abusive even though you are his family, drugs will mess with his judgement when he is desperate. For mom to allow him access to money means she is enabling him. That means she is helping him to stay on his drug habit. She may have given up on him but she should not being giving up on a future for you,her and any siblings. She'll need some money for that. She may want to get a legal separation and tell him he needs to go for treatment again for them to get back together and if he doesnt go, then file for divorce. It isnt fair to allow him to drag the whole family down into the gutter.
I don't know how old you are and whether the bank account is your own or your mom is on it too cus of your age. If you are of legal age, and the money in your account is your own hard earned money, you need to go to the bank and ask that your mother or mom and dad if his name is on it too, be taken off since you are of legal age. They may require your mom to come in and verify it, but not necessarily likely. If he wont give the debit cards back, let the bank know you want to report the cards as stolen and have them reissued only to you and mom and this time do not let him have them. Find a good hiding place...not the wallet. You'll need to ask professionals for advice because it involves street drugs and he was on parole once already. The best thing is to contact an agency that deals with drug users and can give the proper advice to your family. If mom wont do it and you become even more scared of your situation, then hon, you're going to have to do it. Mom might be angry cus she's trying to ignore it but that won't make things get better, only worse, not just for him but all of you. This is a time when because of your love for your parents you won;t want to do anything that will anger or upset them. But if you ever feel threatened of him hanging around the house while high on drugs, and mom won't act, then you have a right to do something that will protect you and give you peace of mind and that is contacting the authoritys. Your mom and the rest of the family may need to go for counseling just as the family of alcoholics do in AA meetings. This is a hard situation you face dear. I am sorry to hear you have to experience this. I hope you find the inner strength to do what you must when the time comes no matter what your age, even if still under 18
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