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this guy alex again...
I am so sorry to bug you. But your just the best person who gives me advice.
The other day I had it. I just texted alex and told him "I just have to throw this out there because its eating at me. I like you."
He didn't reply that day or the next day or the next day.
Today he texted me "wyd"
And I said just sitting around wbu
And he asked if I could talk so I called him.
He then continued to explain he's sorry he hasn't replied just he was going through finals at school and things were really hectic. And appologized and wanted to be sure I knew I didn't scare him away or anything.
Then asked me to explain my feelings on what I meant on the text.
I explained that the reason he makes me nervous is because I like him. And I'm one of those people if I feel like I need to say something it will stress me out until I do. And I also explained we don't know eachother very well but I do like him from what I do know and us hanging out. And if he iust liked me as a friend I understood and that's awesome. But I'm not saying if he did like me I want tojust jump into a relationship like that and I just wanted to make sure we were on the same page. Well he said he understood what I meant and everything and that I didn't make anything awkward or weird and thankyou for being open about my feelings.
And that's it! Like he didn't say anything about me liking him otherwise or if he had feelings about me. Just thankyou for being open about mine. What do I do at this point. Idk what this means.I'm lost :(
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I best guess is that even if he is crazy about you, he is not going to allow himself to indulge in telling you because he does not feel he will be able to back it up cus it seems he wants to focus totally on school. Maybe females are better at handling focus on school while in a relationship. Men thing about women and sex so much that if there was someone they were allowing themself to get carried away thinking about, a sweetheart, it truly may affect their focus on school. Maybe some guys can handle both at same time. Alex knows himself best. So he is choosing to just remain friends while in school. If you can wait til he's done with school to find out if there could be something more between you, then by all means wait it out. If you don't want to sit around waiting, then you will have to decide what it is you will do. You could wait all that time and then when he is free to pursue you, either he or you or both of you once you've given dating a chance find that you really don't like the other enough for a long term relationship after all. If you had the ability to look into the future, it might be easier. There is no easy solution here. You will also have to consider, while you're waiting for Alex while he's concentrating on school and not you, what would you do if another guy came along who was interested in you. Do you brush him off and wait for Alex? Or do you respond? If fate does bring someone else along, you might want to date the guy to get to know him better and see if there is any chemistry. See if you are attracted and if he is a step up, improvement over Alex. The only way to know is to give something like that a try. Do not settle for someone the same or less than what Alex is to you, only commit to someone is he is even more than you ever dreamed Alex could be. In my life I have made improvements in men I have been with in commited relationships. And at the time I never dreamed there could be someone better.
Not saying give up on Alex, that is your choice...just giving you the ideas of all the possibilities that may come your way.
Good luck dear.
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