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If a parent goes to jail should they automatically lose the right to be a p
parent to their child?
y wife and mother of my thirteen year old daughter is in jail for a year for forgery charges. I wonder what this means now for the relationship between her and her daughter. I guess most people would take their kid and keep as far away as possible but I am not sure. Obviously she did the wrong thing and should serve her punishment but it was out of character so I think she just got herself into a bad situation and make some poor decisions, She also never did anything bad at all before this. Also, her mother is showing regret and no defense at what she did and has admitted to being a bad influence to her daughter so that is why I am still willing to stick by her. She never did anything like this before and was Also she was not an absent parent or abusive or anything and I don't think she will tell her daughter to do the same things she did. But some might feel that just because she committed a crime she has no right to be involved with her child anymore. I bet even my daughter might be my daughter might be thinking "mom went to jail she has no right to tell me what to do".
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To answer your question, if a parent was abusing or mistreating a child in any way, such as neglecting or sexual abuse, then yes they should be prevented from seeing the child. When the child is an adult and can defend theirself, then they can decide for themselves if they wish to pick up the relationship again. Otherwise, mom should be able to continue being mom ...but ...because of what she did, the whole family should be seeing a family counselor once she gets out.
Stop worrying about what other people would do or what other people will think. If people spend all their life telling others what they should do, realize that it's a mechanism to avoid looking at oneself and focusing on what they need to change in their own lives and where they need to grow. Even the experts trained to counsel can only do as good as the information they are given. Something you may think unrelated or insignificant may be very helpful and illuminating to a counselor.
Now, on to what your daughter may think about mom. She is going to be looking to you and picking up cues from you so if Dad is floundering and has no idea what to think, she will feel lost and confused as well.
I have something I'd like to share and don't mean to be offensive as I don't know your spiritual beliefs. But I hope this helps give you a perspective on your situation you may not gain otherwise. I came from Christian background. I could never understand why some people do the not so good things or wrong choices, until I felt God telling me that reincarnation was real. Souls are like students. And the life on earth is the classroom. You would not expect a 1st grader to be doing 8th grade work because they are so far from it and just won't understand a single thing you say. It would be too overwhelming. There are students who sometimes have to be held back because they are not ready for the next grade level. And so it is with souls. They come to earth many times in a mortal life to learn and progress. Some resist, or goof off, or skip school, so it may take many many lifetimes for them to finally learn the one lesson, or grade level. Others are older souls here on earth again to learn more but they have learned to not resist so they are now passing their grade levels much easier...even though they may get some errors on tests.
Now here's a point I want to make, just because a parent is age wise older than their child does not guarantee that they are also at a soul level older and wiser than the soul of their child. All though all attempts are made to keep the souls of those are going to be married or in families, as close to the same soul level as possible, sometimes the lesson to be learned by the majority requires one family member to be of a lower soul wisdom level than the rest. Why? The friction that causes gives the others the opportunity to grow in some way as a soul, perhaps to learn unconditional love, how to forgive, etc... No, it's not easy. But I am glad I understood that when I left a verbally abusive husband and could tell the daughters to still love their dad, even though he wasn't always acting the adult. I told them this was their opportunity to learn how to deal with an abusive type of person because they will run into people like this from time to time throughout their life.
With this kind of mind set, if you can get yourself there, what you say to your daughter will come naturally and easily.
Good luck sir and many blessings to you and the family.
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i am not a legal advisor but try to give you some advise here .frist crime and right of child is different your wife has right to met and talk her daughter.any court not prevent to talk with her child so take advise from legal adviser.
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