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Movie night with friends!
Hello, I am 18/female. Tomorrow night, I am going to the movies with 3 of my guy friends and my college roommate. One of the guys is a mutual friend between all of us, the second guy- I have a huge crush on. The third guy is the guy that I like, his best friend. Now, the guy that I like and I don't talk that much, but when we do, it's great. We joke and laugh, we watch Adventure Time together. One night, he had to work from two in the morning until five in the morning, so I stayed with him and watched Adventure Time. My roommate had already warned me that if I don't "get my flirt on" tomorrow night, she is going to get my flirt on for me. She said she's already thinking of ways to get us to sit next to each other during the movie. Now, I have never been in a serious relationship before, I've had feelings for a guy that have been returned in the same way before but nothing really continued, we just flirt and that was it, we moved on. I also have a really bad habit of getting to be too good of friends with guys so that I friend-zone them and then I don't see them as anything more than my best friend.
So, I guess what I'm trying to ask is: how do I go about flirting with him tomorrow night? Especially because his best friend is going, they're gonna be best friends together because the other three of us do not know him that well. I also already know it's gonna be weird and awkward because we're gonna be in a dark movie theater so we won't be able to talk much. I just want to not friend-zone this one for once because he's super handsome and I would like to get to know him better on a new level. Sorry for sounding like a 12 year old girl, haha, I just don't know how to go about doing this kinda thing.
Thanks.
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It sounds like they all are definitely at just friend level. You are at a good age to start learning about a serious relationship with a guy.
Haven't any of them given any hints or clues that they might be interested in you as more than a friend, and perhaps you weren't recognizing it or looking for it?
Its just a matter of time til you find the most awesome mate because you have one of the important components of a relationship down...one I feel is important to come first. Sex isnt enough to make a relationship healthy. Best if it starts with friendship and grows into the sexual part. But...there has to be enough sexual chemistry and this is what you will be learning next. Be careful and take precautions though.
Now, as to how to find out if any one of the three are possibly romantically interested in you.
If they feel awkward showing any deep interest in you in front of their friends, you will have to come up with a plausible ploy to give them an out and then see what happens.
Sitting in the movies theater seats is not a way to be able to snuggle up. It is not my idea of a place to flirt. Wait until the next time you're all together at someones house and here's what you say to them.
"I feel like I am ready to move on to having a serious romantic relationship with a guy. But I don't have any experience. So I am wondering if any one of you as my friends would like to help me with that, the holding hands, snuggling and kissing and such. that way I can feel more comfortable moving into a romantic relationship if someone asks." Something like that in your own words.. it.may sound corny but you have to get a response from them somehow.
If one is interested in you, he can now step forward and tell you he will help you and it won't feel as awkward in front of his friends if thats whats holding him back. Or perhaps none of them have much experience and dont want to admit it by making a move and then thinking you might not like how they kiss or whatever. Now one or maybe two of the guys will volunteer. If they don't volunteer, then perhaps there is no sexual attraction at all for any of them. And you'll know to go looking for other guys to experience that with. If one is willing to "help you practice" do your flirting real heavy, if you've worn just casual clothes, dress up a bit sometimes, but still in what is your personal style, go for a kiss, or start with snuggling your head on his chest and move to plant a kiss on his neck or under his chin, nibble at his jaw and see if he's ready for kissing now. Read books on how to go beyond flirting. Once he's drawn in by the hormones being stirred up with the romantic stuff, it should proceed to him wanting you for real not because he's helping you to be ready for another guy. Hope it helps. Good luck
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