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Family problems with me and my diste
I'm 13 , female. Me and my sister are fighting alot. And my parents are tiers of us fighting alot. I don't really know what I can do to talk to her about how I feel about us fighting all the time. I tell her I lover her. But she tells me I don't love her.
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Hey,
So firstly thank you for inboxing me.
The key thing here is motivation. You want to change right? So for things to progress any further your sister has to want to change too.
So you need to just start again-as clearly communicating by talking doesn't make things progress. Why not write a note? This would be a different approach, and will make you look like the mature one.
I don't know how old your sister is. If she's a lot younger than you then let your parents sought it out, if she's your age or older then take it into your own hands.
I have a twin sister, and from time to time we do argue. But we always make it right again. We do this by being there for each other. So, if its been a bad day at school for her, I'll try to make her feel right. If I have relationship problems, she'll come and be supportive to me.
I think you need to take the initive and be like, enough is enough. Put aside your own needs of a loving sister and be the loving sister for her. If you stick at it, then you should get it in return.
But yeh, start with writing a note, to try and establish whether she does want to have a more mature relationship with her sister. If not-don't worry-sister quarrels always blow over and when you have the stress of boys, exams and jobs to worry about-she'll be like your best friend!
If she does want to 'start again' then why not do something fun with her? Many people struggle with seeing their sisters interest shift from Barbie and swings to boys, exams and going out.
Why not try a fun shopping trip?
To get out what you want just like any other relationship, it takes time and effort.
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