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How to ignore him completely?!
So my dad hates me and he's trying to always find excuses to not have me in this house anymore. I honestly would be better off without him.
He hates me and I hate him. He's a jerk. Whenever I'm sick, he doesn't believe me. When I feel ill, he doesn't care or believes me. He doesn't care. Period.
He buys me what I need because he wants to look like a good father to my mom and family. It's not true! I want to live here, but without him. I love my family; Just not him.
I don't want to "be mean to him" anymore or "be a dissapointment", so how can I just fully ignore him?! I'm just starting to get scared to sleep or live with him.
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I somehow feel there may be more to this then what you are,at this time, willing to tell us. Even though I am old enough to be your grandfather I know or feel this way for I grew up with a similar father. He blamed me for everything that was wrong in his life for my coming into this world was an accident which his father,even though my parents were married for three years, forced him to man up too.
From a legal stand point there is not much you can do about this situation unless he is physically, mentally or sexually abusing you. If this is true then you have every right, even as a minor, to contact the police.
If your not being abused in anyway you are sort of stuck for the next 3 years. Until you are 18 you have no choice but to live in his home. I tried to ignore my father and it just doesn't work. The tension it puts on the rest of the family is horrendous. The best you can do is to try to peacefully coexist with him. By that I mean is to stay out of his way as much as possible. Answer him politely when he speaks to you. Nothing says you need to speak with him unless their is something that specifically needs his attention or permission.
I know how hard this is for you, for as I have said above I have been there and I have the mental scars to show for it. If you have a good relationship with your mom you should and could talk with her about therapy with a good psychologist.
For one thing therapy will give you a safe outlet to speak your mind without fear of anything getting back to your parents as anything you say stays is confidential and cannot go back to anyone. Maybe the therapist will be able to get dad in therapy which is really what he needs to deal with whatever problems he has in whatever is wrong between you two.
As a father myself I don't feel any parent can ever actually hate their child, even my father. What I feel is that a parent can lose respect for their children, fall out of love with them but to actually build a hate for them, no. To me this would be an indication of a serious mental problem on their part for which they should seek help.
For now, without further information my best advice is to avoid him whenever you can. As long as you live in his house you will not be able to totally ignore him as this will only lead to more trouble for you.
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