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Family issues:(
Me and my mom have a rocky relationship and I'm in a split family she lives two hours away with her husband and my two half sisters we used to get along but my stepdad always causes problems he tells her I say stuff about her and it even gets to where she won't talk to me for months i don't know what to do anymore I can't tell my stepdad off or ill make my mom mad and if I try to tell her how I feel she tells me to drop it I feel left out and like I don't belong there I've tried to let go and accept this is the way things are but I only end up hurting myself even more I left her when I was eight I'm fourteen now
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I'm going to assume your living with your dad or another family member as you are too young to be living on your own. Is it possible for your dad or this other family member to talk with your mom and convey you feelings?
I ask this as I can see this as only one of two way to resolve this issue. The other is through therapy with a qualified psychologist who can help you deal with the emotions you have in this regard. While at the same time possibly conveying, without revealing what is said in therapy as that is confidential, to your mom that you want a better relationship and helping to work toward that end.
The problem with the second solution is the two-hour distance between you. Given your present relationship with mom, peoples busy lives,not to mention the cost involved to compute this distance and whether or not mom can afford this. I'm not so sure this second solution is a viable one for resolving this issue.
What I am sure of is that therapy will help you resolve any issues you are dealing with and may reveal a new way to approach your mom. For this I do recommend that you give therapy a chance.
Whoever you are living with may have an EAP program through their employer or spouse's employer under which by the fact you live with them you are covered. Most EAP programs will cover the full cost of a specific number of therapy visits each year. If an EAP program is available then I fully suggest giving therapy a try.
Everything you say to the therapist is confidential. Nothing you say can get back to your parent(s) or family member you are staying with. What your therapist can do with your permission is to recommend ways to your parents that they can help reach your goals. In this instance your goal is a better relationship with mom.
You have nothing to loose and everything to gain by giving therapy a chance. It just maybe the right solution to your problem.
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