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how can i cum or have an orgasm
Ok 14/f and ive started reccently to masterbate. I usually do it either at night in bed or in the shower/bath. First of all please explain what cum and orgasm means. Second, how can i cum or have an orgasm by masterbating? What is the common way?
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Part of the question was already answered now what to do
When in the tub run the water
move your v up close to the running water
lift your hips and let the water pour over your v
open your v so the water flows over your clit
brace yourself for intense orgasm
If you have a hand held shower head
Spread your legs and open your v
take shower head and spray water all over your clit
even more intense orgasm
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Hi. Lets have a look and see what we can do. I dare say you've noticed when you're masturbating that it feels good and quickly starts to build up a sort of tension. Not a 'bad, stressed-out every-day' sort of tension. More a sort of tensing and tightening of all the muscles below your waist and a kind of 'waiting for something nice to happen' tension in your mind, right? What you're aiming to do is build that tension up and up until it's all suddenly released. The muscles have a series of spasms (they pull tight, release, pull tight again and so on until they're 'relaxed' once more. And when it happens your brain gets bombarded with really intense 'feel good' sensations. That is having an orgasm. The mind thing is exactly like the way a thrilling fair ride or extreme sports give us a 'high' from a rush of adrenalin. It's perfectly real, not a myth. When us blokes masturbate we virtually always reach a climax, and come. BUT many women, of all ages find pleasuring themselves satisfying and enjoyable even if they don't climax, or possibly climax from time to time and not every time. So basically, if you're not quite 'getting there' you're certainly not 'failing' in any way, shape or form. It's not a competition, or a race at all. Though possibly you might 'compete' a bit chatting with your female friends, in a 'who's going to be the first to have an orgasm' sort of way...which is fair enough. Naturally, you'd like one. I'm afraid it's impossible to tell you precisely what to do, where and for how long to press the magic button. Because every woman will find precisely what works for her best, by trying things out. Sorry if that sounds a cop-out. But the best you could get would just be a list of 'Some women do this...som do that...some do the other...' and so on which wouldn't say anything about YOU and what you will find best. So explore, take your time but don't get stressed if if takes a while, or you kind of defeat yourself, and affirm the 'I can't come' idea...which you don't want to do. In your favour, well...you've got all the right bits and you don't need anything apart from your fingertips. You do not need to buy toys or impovise with household objects, or poke things deeply inside yourself at all really. Quick word of warning, which I'll try to put tastefully. Because all the muscles 'down there' join in, when they're just about to climax a lot of women get a strong feeling that they're going to...well....pee! You can find out for yourself, or take my word for it...that doesn't happen. So relax, and don't let it 'put you off'. Also, we'll blow the (surprisingly common among younger ladies!) myth that when a women has a really great orgasm she kind of 'spurts something out' like the way a guy ejaculates. I'll assure you, there's no organ in a womans body that can make this happen, it's a myth. You might feel wetter tha usual, that's it. So if your mates talk about this, you know better! So basically, just keep enjoying yourself. You can't force it to happen instantly, but you'll know when it does. If something feels good, go with it. If you start to get tired and edgy, don't keep flogging it to death. Stop and try again next time. I'm sure you'll get there. Best wishes.
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It means the same thing. One is the slang word for the real term. An orgasm is when you feel in your body and genital region for that matter tightening up and then several ripples or spasms of varying intensity and then a relaxed state again.
There is no common way to have one. We can't give tips but over time you will learn what feels good for you. Every girl and guy is different and what feels great for some won't for you. Every person's body responds differently.
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